Her Boyfriend’s Friend Tried To “Loyalty Test” Her, And She Isn’t Sure If She Should Tell Her Boyfriend

When this 22-year-old woman was 18, she started dating her ex-boyfriend Leon, who was 19 at the time.
Their relationship lasted nearly two years. But eventually, Leon claimed he “needed to find himself,” and she was left heartbroken despite understanding his needs.
Then, about a year after they split, she met her current boyfriend, Artie, who is 24. They hit it off at a local concert, and she learned that Artie was in a band.
At that point, she asked what his band’s name was, and she realized it sounded familiar because her ex-boyfriend’s best friend was also in it.
And at first, it did not seem like a good idea to get involved with Artie anymore. However, as time went on and she continued hanging out with him, the less she cared about her ex’s friend being in the band.
“We both decided we weren’t going to let someone he kind of knew get in between our obvious chemistry, and we started dating a few months later,” she recalled.
In the beginning, going to Artie’s shows and chilling with his bandmates was a bit awkward for her. But her ex’s friend, Mike, was apparently pretty cool with the whole situation.
She had actually met Mike a couple of times while dating her ex. So, aside from him making the occasional joke about her relationship, everything was going fine.
It was not until Artie and Mike moved in together about a year ago that problems started to arise.

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On numerous occasions, she would go over to see her boyfriend and run into her ex, Leon. Or, she would already be there, and Leon would just show up.
Each time, she just ignored her ex and went to hang out in Artie’s room. And if they ever made eye contact, she would just give her ex an “awkward nod.”
The most bizarre part, though, involved a comment Leon made at the time they broke up.
Apparently, her ex claimed that if she was still single by the time she turned 22, then he would want to ask her out again.
But she was obviously already in a relationship with Artie. And a week before her birthday, she went to one of his band’s shows.
However, when she was waiting for the band to start, her ex-boyfriend did approach her and struck up a conversation. At first, the discussion was causal, and she tried to give Leon “half answers” in hopes he would get the hint and leave her alone.
Still, Leon did not get it. Then, he actually brought up their agreement about going out on her birthday if she was single.
At that point, she decided to make a joke– saying thank goodness she wasn’t single.
But her ex-boyfriend kept pushing and even asked, “Well, what if you were?”
She put her foot down after that and pointed out how she avoided her ex-boyfriend for a reason. She also told him to never talk to her again since he really crossed a boundary with that remark.
Then, she told her boyfriend, Artie, about the encounter after the gig. And Artie told Mike that Leon was not allowed over if she was there.
“I wanted to ask him to set that boundary ages ago, but I didn’t want to give him rules,” she said.
Anyway, about a week later, she and her boyfriend finally celebrated her birthday together. She also posted about it on Instagram.
Yet, the very next day, Leon slid into her DM’s– sending her a long paragraph about how he regretted breaking up with her. Leon also claimed that it should’ve been him celebrating her birthday and said he regretted “shooting his shot” at the gig– where Artie could see– since it ruined their chances of getting together.
This whole message confused her, and she wound up asking Leon what he meant by the “ruining their chances” comment. She also asked what gave Leon the impression that she wanted to be with him whatsoever.
But nothing could have prepared her for her ex-boyfriend’s response. First, he told her that she could be honest. Then, he claimed that Mike told him the truth about how she “drunkenly confessed” to only dating Artie just to keep Leon in her life. Plus, Leon even tried to say that she admitted to purposefully going over to her boyfriend’s house when she knew Leon would be there just to see her ex!
As if she wasn’t already confused when the conversation began, this only perplexed her more. According to her, she never made such a confession to Mike.
In fact, she never even drank with Mike, let alone spend any alone time with him.
So, she tried to tell Leon this. Yet, her ex-boyfriend still did not believe her. Instead, Leon just kept going on and on– urging her to be honest and claiming not to be upset that she was with Artie.
This pushed her to just block her ex-boyfriend. And now, she has been mulling over this strange situation ever since.
“Part of me thinks Mike lied to Leon because he knew Leon still had feelings for me and was closer to him than Artie. But I think the more plausible explanation for his lie is he was trying to loyalty test me or break me and Artie up,” she revealed.
Regardless, she is now in a really sticky situation. On the one hand, she feels like her boyfriend deserves to know what happened. Yet, on the other, she doesn’t want to risk Artie’s living situation and main source of income.
“I don’t want to be the reason he has to move out or find a new band,” she vented.
So now, she’s been left wondering if she should confront Mike and get to the bottom of the lie or just tell her boyfriend, Artie.
How would you feel in this situation? Do you think that she was being loyalty tested, or could Leon have just flat-out lied? Should she tell her boyfriend just for the sake of not keeping a secret in their relationship?
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