His Girlfriend Asked To Open Up Their Relationship, And He Broke Up With Her On The Spot
This 43-year-old guy has been with his 36-year-old girlfriend, Fran, for over two and a half years. And he really thought that things were going great, which was why he even planned to ask Fran to move in.
But, more recently, he realized that his girlfriend had been acting a bit distant. That’s why he decided to give it a bit more time and try to figure out what was up.
For context, he had been cheated on in the past, too. So, he likes to be extra cautious whenever there might be some signs of infidelity.
Well, his girlfriend wound up coming to him this past Friday and making a big speech– asking him to have an open relationship!
Once Fran was done with her “presentation,” he decided to ask if she had a specific person in mind. He had a gut feeling that his girlfriend was already interested in someone else and looked at this question as a “trick” to get Fran to tell him what he already knew.
And surprise, surprise– his girlfriend wound up revealing that she did have someone in mind. So, to him, that means that Fran had already done something with the person or is planning to.
“I strongly believe that in a monogamous relationship, when someone asks to open it, it is because that person saw something else out there and is ready to try it instead of working on the relationship,” he explained.
“Basically, it is blindsiding his or her partner.”
So, while Fran tried to sell him on the idea that an open relationship could be great for both of them, he just got up and walked around the apartment.
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And once she was done talking, he handed his girlfriend a bag with all of her belongings in it, told her to leave her spare key on the table, and pointed her to the door. He also clarified that he and Fran were over and claimed that she knew exactly why.
“Then, I went to the couch and turned on the TV, just trying to look indifferent and save face,” he recalled.
His girlfriend was reportedly speechless for a while and seemed like she was on the verge of tears. But, before the waterworks came, he just told Fran that he did not want to talk about anything and instructed her to leave. Still, once Fran finally walked out the door, he actually started to feel terrible. He even cried a bit and, since then, has been mourning their relationship.
At the same time, his phone has been blowing up with calls and texts from his friends. And rather than supporting his decision, his friends have actually been calling his reaction “extreme” in response to Fran’s “simple request.”
Now, he has no idea what Fran really told his friends. But regardless, ever since getting those messages, he’s been trying to figure out if he really did go overboard while fighting the urge to go crawling back to Fran.
“Because deep inside, even knowing my feelings for her are still there, the trust is gone, and I’m not gonna spend all my time watching her movements,” he vented.
While he tries to hold his ground and stay strong, though, he’s still been left wondering whether his reaction to his girlfriend wanting an open relationship was justified or not.
Do you agree with his perspective on why people sometimes ask for open relationships? Is it good that he cut his losses before any more hurt could occur, or do you think he did go overboard? How would you have reacted had you been in his shoes?
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