Many of us believe that nothing is as important as family. But sometimes, as life progresses and we get older, family relationships get more complicated, and certain relatives treat you differently.
One woman is distraught after discovering that her brother refuses to introduce her to his kids because of her medical and mental history.
She’s 33 years old and has a brother who’s 40. Her brother is married and has two kids, a three-year-old and a six-month-old.
Her brother hasn’t reached out to her in years. She’s made many attempts to reconnect with him so they can be close and she can meet his children. However, her brother has adamantly kept his distance from her. She recently discovered that he had kicked her out of their family group chats on all different platforms, and her mom found out why.
She has an extensive medical history and has been through a lot over the past few years. She’s very reliant on her mom for help getting to appointments, paying her bills, etc.
Some of her ailments include lupus, fibromyalgia, endometriosis, seizures, brain surgeries, uterine cancer, movement disorders, etc. She’s currently on twelve medications and has accumulated thousands of dollars in medical bills. Because of her seizures, she hasn’t been able to work, although she is currently working on getting her Ph.D.
As a result of everything she’s been through, she was diagnosed with PTSD from medical and childhood trauma in 2017 and has had periods of erratic and chaotic behavior. However, after seeing a psychologist for a while, she believes she’s gotten much better.
Despite all of this, her brother believes she is severely mentally ill, so he refuses to get in touch with her and introduce her to his children.
“Mom asked why he thought I had a mental illness, and he said it’s because I rely on her too much and I clearly ‘need’ her,” she recalled.
“This has been an ongoing issue in my mom’s relationship with my brother, and he is furious that she doesn’t visit more often or spend more time with his children.”
Things became more tense between her family and her brother when her parents told him they were selling their house and getting a smaller place in order to put more money towards her medical costs. Her brother thinks her parents spend too much time and money on her and her ailments.
“My brother has told my mom that she should leave me to do my own thing and shouldn’t be driving me to doctor’s appointments, etc.,” she said.
“He’s said I’m a burden to her, and he’s worried that she’s missing out on enjoying her retirement.”
Over the last few years, her brother has avoided her whenever he brings his family to town to visit their parents, and he hasn’t invited her over for family holidays. Although she wants them to have a solid relationship, her brother continues to struggle with the amount of attention she continues to receive from their parents.
Should she accept that her brother doesn’t want to have any contact with her, or should he be more sympathetic?
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