Her Fiancé’s Parents Are Threatening To Withhold Their Wedding Contribution Unless Her Fiancé Gets A Prenup Against Her
This 28-year-old woman is set to get married to her 28-year-old fiancé, who she has been with for four years, in just five weeks. Yet, all of a sudden, he wants a prenup to withhold alimony from her in case they get divorced in the future.
This makes zero sense to her since she has been her fiancé’s support system throughout his entire four years of residency.
To be clear, she didn’t support him financially since they both had salaried jobs. But she was there for her fiancé emotionally, and they have lived off a tight budget since the start of their relationship.
Her fiancé’s debt pushed him to take her on very few dates, and when it came to household responsibilities, she did the heavy lifting.
“I’ve done all of the cooking, cleaning, and taking care of him and our dog while working full-time ever since we moved in one and a half years ago and did a significant amount for the two years prior to moving in,” she recalled.
She wants to clarify that she isn’t trying to “keep count.” Regardless, she feels as though their relationship has been completely unequal– with her putting in 80% of the effort, while her fancé put in 20%.
She wasn’t even angry about this at the time, either, since she knew this arrangement would be their reality for a while, given her fiancé’s current work schedule.
They also agreed three years ago not to get a prenup since her fiancé had no substantial assets. Plus, they both settled on the idea of her quitting her job and becoming a stay-at-home mom after she got pregnant in two or three years.
Yet, her fiancé’s parents– who have reportedly been trying to ruin their relationship ever since they moved in together– have butted in and trashed the entire plan.
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In fact, six weeks before her wedding was set to take place, her fiancé’s parents claimed that they would withhold their wedding contribution unless her fiancé got a prenup against her. That way, she wouldn’t get any alimony if they wound up splitting up down the line.
“Given the vulnerable position I’d be put in as a stay-at-home mom without a career anymore, I feel really hurt and betrayed by the idea of this,” she said.
“There are reasonable laws in place for alimony without a prenup given several circumstances, so to think of the possibility that he could leave me high and dry with a newborn baby, no job, debt still to our name, and zero alimony to help me get back on my feet in three years from now, I feel like he isn’t looking to protect me at all.”
That’s why she thinks the move is extremely selfish on her fiancé’s part. Not to mention, they never discussed divorce or prenups and never had any financial insecurities over the past four years. Instead, they have always made it work together.
Regardless, her fiancé has mentioned the prenup every day and claims that he is being a realist– which she somewhat understands but also finds terrifying.
“I get it, but the circumstances of this prenup seem very alarming to me,” she vented.
So now, she’s been left wondering what to do and how to feel about her fiancé’s decision.
Why do you think her parents decided to butt in? Would you feel comfortable marrying someone if they brought up this stipulation just weeks before your wedding? What should she do?
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