His Girlfriend Keeps Making Plans Then Claiming She Can’t Afford To Pay, So He Finally Put His Foot Down And Refused To Pay For Everything In Their Relationship

Dragana Gordic - stock.adobe.com-  illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Dragana Gordic - stock.adobe.com- illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This man currently lives with his girlfriend, and he’s noticed one frustrating tendency in their relationship.

Apparently, his girlfriend will regularly suggest that they go out on dates or take trips. Then, even if he agrees and they make a plan, she will later complain about being tight on cash and claim that she can no longer go.

So, he gets left covering the tab for both of them since his girlfriend expects him to offer to pay.

“A couple of times doesn’t bother me, but it’s starting to become more frequent,” he said.

For instance, he will be getting a raise at work next month, which is why he decided to treat himself for the month. Rather than saving money, he wanted to take his girlfriend out for a nice meal.

Plus, he wanted to go on a double date with two of their other friends in a nearby city. So, he paid for the travel and hotel costs and also told his girlfriend that he would pay for their meal.

This meant that she would only have to pay for their drinks, and at the time, his girlfriend claimed that was fine.

But now, out of nowhere, his girlfriend told him that he would have to pay for the entire evening because she plans to see friends next month and has other bills to pay.

He wound up telling his girlfriend no, although that didn’t really work. Instead, she seemingly tried to guilt trip him by saying that they would just have to cancel the entire night then.

Dragana Gordic – stock.adobe.com- illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“She’s also started mentioning the amount of money I’m planning to spend next month and keeps asking if I’m going to get her a treat or a present, etc.,” he revealed.

“I point out that I am taking her for a meal and a night away, and she just changes the subject.”

Not to mention his girlfriend also suggested that they go out one day this weekend– so they planned to travel and made a reservation at a restaurant.

Yet, his girlfriend again claimed that she could not afford it all of a sudden, and that really frustrated him. That’s why he finally told his girlfriend to just stop expecting him to pay for everything.

“I pointed out how it’s very obvious that she’s making these plans and just expecting me to be fine covering the full cost once we’ve planned it out,” he explained.

Still, his girlfriend just got angry at him, accused him of attacking her for nothing, and claimed he was in the wrong. She also swore that it was just a coincidence and that he stepped over the line by accusing her of taking advantage of him.

So now, he’s been left wondering whether refusing to continue paying for everything in their relationship really makes him a jerk or not.

How would you feel if your partner kept trying to make plans and bowing out when it came time to pay? Does it sound like it really has been a coincidence, or is he being taken advantage of? How should he handle this situation?

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