She Called Out Her Friend For Acting Too Friendly With Her Boyfriend But Isn’t Sure If She’s Reading Too Much Into The Situation

This 29-year-old woman has known her best friend, who is 31, for about two years. She’s also been dating her 28-year-old boyfriend for approximately seven months.
But, over the past couple of months, she thinks her best friend has been sending strange vibes toward her boyfriend.
“I think my friend’s either attracted to him, or she’s lonely and craving a connection with a good man, thus trying to fulfill that need occasionally by seeking my man’s attention in odd, ‘innocent’ ways,” she revealed.
Now, she claims to love her boyfriend more than anything, and she even feels like this is the best relationship she’s ever been in. That’s why he finally moved in with her just a few days ago.
Over the course of their relationship, she and her boyfriend have only hung out with her best friend a handful of times.
It’s happened, just not frequently– mainly because her friend has been traveling a ton this year and is rarely in town.
So, the three of them recently made plans to meet up, and they started discussing the plan in a group chat.
However, on the day of the hang-out, she and her boyfriend wound up having to cancel. They were just exhausted from running around and moving in the day before.
Then, the next day, she was hanging out with her boyfriend when her best friend randomly sent him a text. She was sitting right next to her boyfriend, and he immediately told her about the message and even showed it to her.

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Her best friend claimed to be “kind of sad” about not getting to see her boyfriend the day before. Afterward, her friend asked how her boyfriend was doing and claimed to have heard that he moved in with her.
Right off the bat, the fact that her friend messaged her boyfriend that, and not her, rubbed her really wrong. So, she decided to confront her friend about the text that very day.
“I said I felt weird about her messaging him individually, saying she was sad she didn’t get to see him– not ‘you guys’– and I also mentioned a previous comment she had made while she and I were traveling together in May,” she recalled.
“My boyfriend had texted her to ask how we were doing– since I didn’t have my phone at that moment– and she had gotten all excited about it, talking about how sweet my boyfriend was and telling me, ‘I know he’s your boyfriend, but it’s just nice to have attention from a guy.'”
She told her friend she hadn’t forgotten about the remark and that while she did value their friendship, she wanted her friend to be honest about the uncomfortable comments.
At that point, her friend claimed to have only texted her boyfriend because he seemed like the only person who was excited to meet up.
Apparently, she had not been super responsive in their group chat since she was running around and driving a lot that day– which she admits to.
Her friend was also glad that she was honest about her feelings but claimed her accusations were hurtful since her friend had always been supportive of her relationship.
“My friend said that she had a lot of male friends who ‘also seek a friend and outlet or female perspective and to think this is anything but that really sucks,'” she added.
“My friend also said that she’s been feeling distant from me and that she hadn’t heard from me in a few days, and that ever since my boyfriend and I have gotten more serious and moved in together, she doesn’t see me or hear from me as much.”
She reiterated, though, that her friend has been traveling for months straight ever since May. So, her friend has only been back in town for about two weeks.
Regardless, she talked to her boyfriend about the whole situation. He admitted that while he originally thought her friend was just being over-friendly, he now completely understands her perspective. In fact, her boyfriend claimed that if his own friends made the same comments to her, then he would be uncomfortable, too.
During that same conversation, she and her boyfriend then started discussing some other strange interactions with her best friend.
A while ago, for instance, her friend initiated a discussion with her boyfriend pretty late at night. Apparently, her friend was asking about his “philosophy on love.”
She heard about this immediately, since her boyfriend told her while it was happening. At the time, she did feel weird about it, too, but she just shrugged the incident off and figured her friend was just being quirky and friendly.
Another time, her best friend had gone out to a bar with two other friends and decided to text her boyfriend a photo of the group of three. Again, this happened pretty late at night.
Along with the picture, her friend also sent a text saying, “Someone is missing from this picture.”
Her boyfriend just responded, “Yeah, two people are missing!” to include her. Yet, her friend doubled down and just told her boyfriend that it was only him who was missing.
Anyway, since analyzing all of the examples with her boyfriend, she feels sick to her stomach over the situation with her best friend.
On the one hand, she is not sure whether she is reading too much into her friend’s interactions with her boyfriend.
But, on the other hand, she knows she would never behave that way around her friend’s significant other.
“Something doesn’t sit right with me, especially with the bar picture comment. And now I feel stupid for trusting my friend, telling her details about my relationship, and I feel weirdly heartbroken,” she vented.
She’s also been left wondering whether her feelings about her friend are right or if she might be overreacting.
Do you think her friend’s actions are completely innocent? Even if they weren’t ill-intended, do you feel like the incidents were inappropriate? How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Would you want to salvage this friendship or cut it off?
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