He’s Refusing To Financially Support His Girlfriend If She Chooses To Be A Stay-At-Home Mom Even Though He Can Easily Afford It Because He “Finds Ambition Attractive”
This 24-year-old man has been dating his girlfriend, who is 23, for six years. They both have good jobs, allowing them each to earn a high income, and they would be able to comfortably afford their lifestyle on just his salary alone.
He and his girlfriend also plan to get married and want to eventually have kids. However, he is not open to the idea of his girlfriend becoming a “housewife.”
In the past, she had brought up how she might want to be a stay-at-home mom after having kids.
“But I never thought much of it,” he recalled.
And more recently, his girlfriend has made comments about being a stay-at-home mom much more frequently. Apparently, she wants their future kids to have “real parents” present instead of fully relying on babysitters or daycares.
His biggest issue with this is that he finds ambition extremely attractive.
“It’s not so much what the career is or the money involved– could be investment banking, could be kindergarten teaching, anything in between– but rather I just find the strive to advance, to attain further skills in your field, an admirable trait,” he explained.
So, since he makes plenty of money to support both of them, he would support his girlfriend if she decided to change jobs and work in a field that provides less income. He would also be open to her taking on volunteering.
“As long as she is striving at some career,” he reasoned.
nyul – stock.adobe.com- illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
That’s why he wound up telling his girlfriend that if she wanted to “downgrade” or switch her career, then he would gladly support her.
“But I wouldn’t support her financially if she wanted to be a housewife because that’s just not what I want in a partner,” he revealed.
This made his girlfriend extremely angry and upset, and she accused him of being a real jerk. Still, he really thinks his feelings are justified.
“It’s my money, after all,” he vented.
Regardless, with him and his girlfriend stuck in a stalemate over this, he’s now wondering whether refusing to financially support his girlfriend if she chooses to stay home with their kids actually makes him a jerk or not.
Isn’t being a full-time stay-at-home parent very ambitious already? Regardless, doesn’t it seem like he and his girlfriend are on two different wavelengths? Do you think they will be able to work this out, or should they part ways since their values don’t align?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe
After Her Coworker Stole From Her, She Tattled On Her To Her Boss
She’s A Talented Musician Who Would Up Missing After Being Evicted From Her Beverly Hills Apartment
She Was The First African American Woman To Open Up A Bank In The United States
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Relationships