His Girlfriend Believes Unattractive People Should “Know Their Place” And Not Pursue Better-Looking People
Recently, this 27-year-old man and his girlfriend, 28, were talking on FaceTime.
Apparently, a new employee at the company she works for was romantically interested in her. The new co-worker asked her what her plans were for this weekend, and she told him that she was going to be spending time with her boyfriend.
Once she told him that, he didn’t seem as eager to talk to her.
When she told him this story, he wasn’t concerned or upset at all.
“She’s a genuine 8, so this sort of thing happens all the time, and I’m stupid secure in myself,” he said.
However, when his girlfriend continued, her harsh words were pretty bothersome.
“She goes on to describe how she was offended that he would even consider asking her out. ‘Even if I was single, look at me and look at you,’ was what she said she immediately thought. She went on to describe him as generally unattractive and says he should ‘know better,'” he explained.
For him, his girlfriend’s opinion was repugnant. If he had to rate his attractiveness, he would give himself a 6.5, and when he’s said this to others, they exclaim that he’s humble and being too hard on himself, but he thinks they’re just being nice.
“But just going off of a bell curve, I’m more than happy with where I think I sit. I’ve never had a problem in the dating arena, at least. I’m not going to sit here and pretend that I would be immediately attracted to a 3 or 4, but I would NEVER writ large relegate them to some lesser position based on that, and I would give them a chance,” he shared.
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Since he thought that his girlfriend’s views seemed so conceited, he asked her what her views were on couples in which one partner was a lot better-looking than the other.
She responded and said that while she understands that this occurs, she doesn’t believe that it’s right.
When he clarified and questioned whether she felt like it was wrong for someone less attractive to be in a relationship with someone much better-looking, she said that that was indeed what she believed.
A couple of minutes after that, his phone battery died. Once he was off the phone with his girlfriend, he realized that after a year and a half of dating, this was the least interest he’d ever felt toward her.
Once he reflected more on the situation, he didn’t know if he could envision himself being in a long-term relationship with a woman who held these judgmental views.
Even though she is kind to him and cares about him a lot, he can’t shake off how gross her beliefs are about people who aren’t as good-looking as others.
In his opinion, it’s similar to a situation where you have a great relationship with an awesome co-worker, and when they make an offensive and derogatory joke, you laugh along because you assume they’re mocking people with prejudiced views, but you learn that they actually are prejudiced.
The only other person he’s ever heard expressing opinions similar to that of his girlfriend was one of his previous roommates.
He and his roommate would often discuss society’s beauty expectations, and they had differing views on the topic.
“He would bring up people I’d been with in the past and talk about how they were LUCKY that I gave them a chance,” he continued.
He has never wavered on his views, and he doesn’t think his girlfriend’s perspective will change, either.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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