She Told Her Sister That She Stresses Everyone Out, Which Made Her Mad
This 21-year-old woman’s sister, 24, is an anxious person, and she projects her anxiety onto other people.
Her sister seems to see the negative in everything, and when her sister makes plans, she’s extremely particular about the minute details.
If something unexpected happens to throw the plans for the day off track, her sister gets incredibly annoyed.
This has been very apparent when her sister asks her to go out to a restaurant with her.
“She’ll ask me what type of food I want, then what type of restaurant I want to go to, then ask if there’s any restaurant I have in mind, then what time I want to leave at,” she said.
“Like she’s inviting me, but literally making me think of every little detail myself, and it’s SO exhausting.”
Leading up to her birthday or Christmas, her sister constantly asks her what she wants as gifts, and she always responds and says she can’t think of anything.
“She asks if I need anything in particular. I tell her no because if I need something, I usually go out and buy it,” she explained.
“I tell her just get me anything! I’m happy with any gift! But no. That’s not good enough, and she gets frustrated that I won’t tell HER what to get ME as a gift.”
She acknowledges that while on the surface, her sister’s behavior sounds reasonable and as if she’s just trying to take other’s wants into consideration, it can be overwhelming to deal with over time.
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Recently, she and her sister were talking about an upcoming trip to a party they were going to attend with their parents.
Since the party was being held an hour away, they had first planned on just driving to the party and back home all in one day.
However, since her sister wanted to get her hair done on the morning of the party, they had to book an Airbnb so that there would be time for her to do that.
Then, her sister said that she wanted to map out the whole day leading up to the party and hoped to carve out some time for them to see other family members.
While she was okay with her sister wanting to do this, her sister started panicking about scheduling when to leave for the day, when they should eat their meals, and when they should plan to visit their other family members.
“And she isn’t calm in any of this. She is always frustrated and angry when we can’t all decide on the perfect time to do anything,” she shared.
“At one point, she gets angry and says everyone is stressing her out and why she has to plan everything. I told her she is the one who stresses us out, and everything doesn’t have to be planned like this.”
Her sister added that they had to give their family members a timeframe of when to expect them. But she responded to that and said that the family already knew to expect them that day because they’d confirmed this last week.
When they’ve visited their family in the past, they’ve never given them a specific time of when they’d be showing up, and it’s never been an issue.
She told her sister that they could give their family members a call after they were done with their meal on the road and ask them if it was okay for them to come over.
But her sister disagreed with this and said that was impolite. She then got mad and left.
Unfortunately, her sister can’t handle not being late to events or get-togethers and gets really upset, while she doesn’t like things being so meticulously planned.
Her sister’s behavior doesn’t seem to be inherited from their parents. Their parents are more relaxed when going out and about and don’t mind going with the flow.
She has occasionally spent a few days at a time with her aunt, and her aunt also seems to be more relaxed when making plans. It seems like her sister is the only one in the family who likes to plan things out in detail.
Now, she doesn’t know which way of planning events is better. She wonders if her sister is too detail-oriented and if this attention to detail is causing her too much anxiety.
At the same time, she doesn’t know if there is something wrong with just winging it while on trips or planning to attend events.
Do you think she was wrong when she told her sister that she stressed everyone out?
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