She’s Refusing To Visit Her Mother-In-Law For The Holidays This Year Because Her Mother-In-Law Never Actually Celebrates, And She Feels Like She’s Missing Out On Time With Her Own Family
This 37-year-old woman is married, and she believes that her husband, who is 40, is a really great guy. However, he just is not close to his family– emotionally or in terms of distance.
Right now, traveling to his mom’s house requires a 10-hour flight that is quite expensive. His dad also lives a 6-hour flight away.
She and her husband, on the other hand, live in a very central area; meanwhile, her in-laws moved to more remote areas that are tough to get to.
This, coupled with her mother-in-law’s feelings about holidays, has made her not really want to celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas with her mother-in-law.
According to her, her mother-in-law just is not a fan of holidays. So, even if she and her husband make the long trip to visit, they never end up celebrating at all.
For instance, on Thanksgiving, her mother-in-law actually refuses to have Thanksgiving dinner since she claims it is “stupid” and that “turkey is disgusting.”
“Instead, my mother-in-law always wants to travel where Thanksgiving isn’t celebrated,” she explained.
Then, even when it comes to Christmas, her mother-in-law never wants to celebrate that, either. In fact, her mother-in-law refuses to decorate and has actually made fun of her and her husband for exchanging gifts or attempting to create little Christmas traditions.
“And I’m tired of spending literally $2,000-plus to ‘celebrate’ a holiday with someone who refuses to participate,” she admitted.
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Every year, she and her husband have always split their holiday visits between her parents, her mother-in-law, and her father-in-law. But this means that she only gets to see her family for a third of the time.
Since her mother-in-law is pretty hostile about the holidays, though, she decided to suggest that they just split the holidays half-and-half– between her parents and her father-in-law– this year.
“We can visit his mom here and there for holidays, but I think instead we should plan our visits on no holiday times,” she reasoned.
Still, her husband always celebrated the holidays with both of his parents growing up, and he wasn’t really willing to budge on the tradition.
Instead, her suggestion went over pretty badly, and her husband accused her of being cold.
That’s why she’s now wondering whether refusing to visit her in-laws over the holidays was really the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why she doesn’t want to make such a big effort to visit her mother-in-law if the holidays are just going to be disregarded? How would you feel if you had to miss out on more time with your own family to just not celebrate with your in-laws? What could she do in this sticky situation?
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