His Ex Asked Him To Stop Spoiling Their Daughter So Much Because It’s Going To Negatively Impact Her Stepsisters
This 45-year-old man and his ex, Hailey, 40, broke up after she came out as a lesbian, and, luckily, their breakup was civil.
Now, Hailey is married to her wife, Jane, 41, and they have two daughters named Rose, 14, and Mel, 10.
He and Hailey have a 17-year-old daughter together named Anna, and they have a 50/50 custody agreement.
Thankfully, he adores Hailey and Jane, and he believes that they’re both wonderful people whom he is very close with.
While they are all civil with one another, he spends a lot of money on gifts for his daughter, Anna, and it’s become a problem.
“I am fairly well-off thanks to working for years on my business, and I like to buy my daughter the best of the best. She is also not bratty and doesn’t act ‘spoiled.’ She always shares the stuff that I get her (designer bags, dresses, tech, even her new car) with her stepsisters, and they have an amazing relationship,” he said.
For holidays and other special events, he includes her stepsisters, and all of the gifts that he purchases for them are just as pricey as the things he buys for his daughter. He prides himself on being a good family member and not making anyone feel left out.
Despite this, there has always been a pretty obvious discrepancy between the allowance that Anna’s stepsisters have versus the allowance he’s given Anna. When Anna buys fancy things for herself with her allowance money, it’s hard to ignore the vast difference between their allowances.
Even though he’s noticed these things along the way, no one seemed to have any problems with this.
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“That is until Hailey came over the other day to talk and asked me if I could tone down Anna’s allowance a bit. I asked why, and she told me Jane’s sister was worried when she found out about the arrangement. She believes you can’t raise kids in one household with different lifestyles without creating resentment, and while they may have an amazing relationship now, that might change when the two girls get older and start to understand concepts like wealth and class,” he explained.
In his view, the ideas that Jane’s sister brought up were more applicable to drastic differences, like one side of a family not having food to eat while the other side of the family has more money than they know what to do with.
“This doesn’t apply to discrepancies in the amount of Taylor Swift merch owned, especially since Anna always shares. She also is not allowed to spend her money on traditional family experiences (like Disneyland or trips) without offering it to the girls, too,” he shared.
Understandably, since he worked a lot to earn the money he has, he doesn’t think he should be expected to check with Hailey and Jane before he decides how to spend his own money.
Plus, he hasn’t seen any proof that Hailey and Jane’s marriage has been negatively affected by how much money he spends on Anna, nor has it appeared to negatively impact Anna’s relationship with her stepsisters.
However, he’s concerned that Jane’s sister is predicting the future and that as Anna’s stepsisters grow up, they’ll start to feel bitter about how many gifts Anna receives and how much larger her allowance is than theirs.
If that is within the realm of possibility, he would prefer that Anna have a stable and happy relationship with her stepsisters rather than continue giving her the amount of money and gifts that he currently is.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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