She Decided To Withdraw The “Wife Privileges” She Gave To Her Boyfriend After He Said He Wasn’t Going To Propose To Her
This 29-year-old woman has been dating her 31-year-old boyfriend for the last 7 years, and she has made it clear to him that she expected him to propose to her by the time they were 4 years into their relationship.
Back then, her boyfriend said he understood and agreed to what she wanted. As they approached their 4-year anniversary, she once more expressed to her boyfriend that she wanted to get married to him.
He was completing his master’s degree and pointed out that he would like to pay off his student debt before purchasing a ring for her.
Although she was hardly happy about compromising, she did it anyway since she knew he wanted to get his finances straightened out first.
Now, her boyfriend makes excellent money, and they do live together. She has watched as all of her cousins and friends tied the knot, and it’s becoming increasingly difficult for her to be happy for other people who have what she so desperately wants.
Not having an engagement ring on her finger has left her feeling empty and upset, especially since all of her loved ones want to know when she’s next to be taken off the market.
Her boyfriend is thriving in his professional career and loves his life, and she feels like he has completely forgotten about the goals they have set together, namely, walking down the aisle.
She decided to bring up getting married once more to her boyfriend, but he stated he thought their life was great just the way it was, before expressing he didn’t believe they had to get married to get a “stamp of validation” for everyone to see.
He then said since she has her own health insurance, he failed to see why they should get married and what the benefit would be.
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“All of this just left me heartbroken,” she explained. “Why don’t I deserve to be his wife after being his GF for so long?”
“Does he not love me enough to make a romantic gesture for me? Choosing me over his useless bike? I talked to my sister, who got engaged 2 years into her relationship, and her approach was simple yet effective. She told me to withdraw all wife privileges from him until I get that title; that he has to “earn” me – not cleaning and cooking for him, moving out, not paying for his expenses sometimes – stuff like that.”
So, she heeded her sister’s advice and started to withdraw all of those wife privileges she gave to her boyfriend. She started by not renewing the lease on their place with him, and he got very angry with her when she declined to sign again.
He said he thought it was a terrible way for her to deal with things and that they really need to continue living together to keep their personal life alive and well.
In response, she told her boyfriend, “I have been a wife for you without the title. I gave myself completely to you, only to expect you to do this one thing for me. I’ve waited long enough.”
“I don’t really believe in ultimatums – so I am not going to force your hand. I am simply acting as your girlfriend now, if you really want our relationship to go back to what it was, you better give me an upgrade.”
She’s curious if she’s dealing with this in the right way. What advice do you have for her?
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