She’s Refusing To Pick Her Niece Up From School Anymore Because She’s Sick of Her Brother And Sister-In-Law Using Her As A Free Babysitter
This 24-year-old woman’s two brothers constantly need her and her parents to help out with their children because both of their partners have sadly experienced the losses of family members.
At first, this wasn’t an issue for her or her parents. They love her brothers’ children and hanging out with them, but her brothers tend to take advantage of them whenever they can.
Both of her brothers requested that her parents watch their children for one more day during the week. However, her parents declined and told them that they couldn’t take the children that often.
Immediately, her brothers started guilt-tripping her parents, claiming that they didn’t have the money for daycare and that if they did put their children in daycare, they’d have to cut back on a lot of other expenses and wouldn’t be able to provide fun things that their children may want.
Even though her brothers said that they don’t have enough money to spend on daycare, this isn’t the case.
One of her brothers’ combined income with his partner is over $137,000 per year. Her other brother and his partner make a combined income of more than $85,000 to $95,000 per year. So, while it’s accurate that daycare is costly, her brothers are both financially secure enough to afford it.
Due to scheduling conflicts on her wealthier brother and his partner’s end after their original daycare plans didn’t work out, she has been picking up her niece from school a couple of times a week.
While she, of course, loves her niece and she’s comfortable with this arrangement, her niece can be a handful.
She doesn’t have children of her own, and after several hours around her niece, she feels exhausted. Sometimes, it’s overwhelming, and she relishes in the quiet and the solitude when her niece isn’t around.
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“They’re now dropping hints to me that they’re exhausted, they don’t enjoy the school run in the mornings, and, essentially, they’re trying to get me to agree to have her sleepover on Sunday night and again on Tuesday night,” she said.
If she agreed to this, it would be incredibly stressful and difficult for her. She would have to wake up an hour earlier for work, and she would end up arriving at work late due to dropping her niece off at school. Her niece’s school is in the opposite direction of the office where she works.
“I told them if they didn’t stop, they would have to figure out alternative arrangements for the school run,” she explained.
Her brother and his partner were furious and insinuated that she would purposely refuse to pick up her niece from school, and then her niece would be bewildered, hurt, and all alone without a ride home.
She would never leave her niece at school without a way to get home. But she isn’t a fan of sleepovers with her niece.
It can be draining to be around her niece for that long. She likes being able to unwind after work and relax.
She acknowledges that if she ever chooses to have children of her own one day, she will have to adjust, but right now, she doesn’t have children and isn’t yet ready for parenthood.
“I feel like they just take and take and take. They never pay for after-school clubs or breakfast clubs. If they want a night away, they always expect free babysitting from me,” she shared.
“I’ve watched one of my nieces before, needed a lift afterward, and my sister-in-law just called a taxi for me and expected me to pay for it. They always say they ‘owe me one,’ but what can they owe me?”
When she babysits her nieces, she doesn’t even eat any of her brothers’ food. She brings her own meals and snacks to eat while babysitting.
All she drinks at their houses is water. Her brothers and sisters-in-law have never paid her to watch their children.
Though she doesn’t have children, she knows that if she did, her brothers would never return the favor and watch her children if she needed someone to. She knows that they would make an excuse and say they were too exhausted to help her out.
Understandably, she’s irritated that her brothers take advantage of her so often. She pointed out that she is so young at only 24, and she wants to be able to have her independence and live for herself right now.
Now, she’s planning to have a discussion with her brothers about her frustrations.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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