Her Boyfriend Had A One-Night Stand And Got Another Woman Pregnant, But Never Told Her About The Baby
This 25-year-old woman and her 25-year-old boyfriend have been together since they were only 13, and she truly believed they would be together for forever.
Her boyfriend is the only boyfriend she has ever had, and she has given up a lot to be with him. She lost out on going after her dream career, as she didn’t want to move away from him.
She skipped out on college and declined to move to another country with her family. She stopped going out with her friends as much during what should have been the most exciting years of her life.
Currently, she and her boyfriend own their own home and split the mortgage payment, but she did put down $10,000 to purchase their house, as she’s financially better off than he is.
“I always envisioned growing old with him, spending my life with him, [and] having kids with him,” she explained.
“We briefly broke up in December early January for a few weeks after an argument. He went out and slept with somebody else but didn’t tell me, we just got back together, and nothing was said.”
“Yesterday he speaks to me very upset and tells me that in September, he’d had a baby girl with a woman he’d had a one-night stand with.”
She questioned her boyfriend about why he waited so long to tell her about the baby, and he claimed it was because he wasn’t positive he was the dad.
The woman her boyfriend got pregnant reached out to his mom, and his mom gave her DNA, which proved her boyfriend actually is the dad.
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Since then, his mom has been seeing her boyfriend’s baby every single weekend while fighting with him to be involved in the little girl’s life. Her boyfriend eventually admitted to her that his mom threatened to tell her about the baby if he didn’t do it.
She has no idea how to deal with this information. Her boyfriend has been sobbing while insisting this other woman baby trapped him and that he’s not ready to be a dad but doesn’t want to lose her either. She ultimately decided to track down this other woman and reach out to her. This other woman maintained that she does not care if her own boyfriend wants to be involved in the baby’s life before blocking her.
“I don’t want a stepchild at all, I don’t even want a child of my own for at least another 5 years,” she said.
“I asked him how we would move on from this, and he said, “We will just pretend the child doesn’t exist and go about our lives,” which disgusted me because I never thought he was the type of coward to abandon an innocent child and I don’t want to be seen as enabling him to do that, I truly believe even if I was out of his life he wouldn’t see the child and with us still together in that situation, I’d be seen as the evil one and like I somehow condone his actions.”
“I envisioned him as a strong man of good character and the fact he doesn’t want involvement with the child and keeps referring to the baby as it and has even blocked his mum off of everything because she is seeing the baby (and he doesn’t want her to) makes me look at him in a different cowardly light and is giving me the ick.”
If her boyfriend had told her about the baby as soon as he found out, she wouldn’t be nearly as upset as she is now. However, the way her boyfriend has chosen to handle all of this has ruined how she feels about him.
She honestly believes that if he did love and care about her, he would have been honest from day one. So, she’s wondering what to do and if she should try to work things out with him or dump him and move on.
What do you think she should do?
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