Her Husband Asked Her For A Divorce On Her Birthday, But Then He Changed His Mind
This 24-year-old girl and her 25-year-old husband have been married for close to 4 years. She just celebrated her birthday, and she was horrified when her husband asked her for a divorce literally on her birthday.
He never once indicated to her that he was unhappy, and he never brought up wanting a divorce until he dropped that bomb on her.
“I was completely gutted, and he seemed to be fine,” she explained. “He told me he had been thinking about it for two weeks.”
“I tried everything to try and fix our marriage. He refused everything. I finally came to terms and said we should split for a couple of months and see how we feel then.”
“He was so against it, he wanted a divorce right away, but since the state requires a separation before they will grant a divorce, he agreed.”
Her family lives 8 hours away from them, and she turned to her loved ones to ask if they could travel to where she lives and help her move her belongings back home.
No sooner were her bags packed than her husband changed his mind. He promised her that he was ready to put in the work to fix their marriage.
However, in the aftermath of that conversation, he did no such thing. He went out all the time, he didn’t try to communicate with her, and he stopped having conversations with her.
So, he ultimately told her once again that he wanted to get divorced, and that broke her heart all over again.
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But then, her husband went right back to begging her not to leave him and apologizing for what he had put her through.
He claimed to have realized that she was never the problem, and instead, he had been projecting his own problems onto her while making her out to be the bad guy.
Since all this has occurred, her husband fully expects her to be able to go right back to how their life was before all this. It’s not that easy for her, and her husband has since accused her of being mean and not having time for him.
She has tried to point out to him that he destroyed the trust she had in him, and things have changed a ton, so it’s going to take quite a bit of time for things to be alright between them again.
“Now that things have settled, I’m upset now,” she said. “I don’t get how someone can give up so easily without even trying to fix things. I gave up everything for him.”
“I moved away from my family so that we could live close to his, gave up jobs and friends I loved. We got into a fight again about how I am not as nice as I used to be, and I never include him in things. It told him how much I felt betrayed that he would give up so easily, considering he chose to marry me and say the vows.”
“Instead, he says that I’m blaming him, and we both felt the same amount of hurt during that time. Which I guess brings me to this post. Is it wrong that I am bitter? He treated me like [junk] for months, when my heart was shattering, and I had absolutely nobody, considering I live 8 hours away from my family.”
What advice do you have for her?
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