She Decided To Turn Down A Job Offer Because She’s Currently Going Through A Divorce And Thinks Her Husband Is Just Trying To Lower Her Alimony
Not long ago, this 51-year-old woman received a job offer from someone who knows her husband.
The person who offered her the position runs a contracting business, and this person has employees who are in charge of generating invoices, which was the job she was offered.
Her position would specialize in accounts receivable, and she noted that at bigger companies, her job would probably be in the accounting department.
At 30 hours a week, the pay would be $18 an hour, and if her first month on the job went well, she could be bumped up to 40 hours a week.
She acknowledged that with the way the economy is currently, she should feel grateful for any job opportunity that comes her way.
For the last 24 years, she has been married to her husband, also 51, and for all but four years of that time, they’ve lived in Philidelphia.
Their two children are 23 and 19.
For a long time, she has been wanting to file for divorce.
“The spark is gone, and there have been some longstanding resentments. In particular, when I had the chance at a medical sales job 21 years ago, I was so close to being hired. I just needed a reference. My husband worked for a friend’s medical office as their accountant, and I had said in my interviews that I had worked as an office manager. I wasn’t explicitly employed, but I had shadowed my husband greatly and was his de facto bookkeeper at home,” she said.
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She asked her husband if she could list him as a reference, and he agreed.
However, when the person who interviewed her reached out to her husband for a reference, they needed him to verify her employment, which her husband couldn’t do since she had only worked under her husband in an unofficial capacity.
Because of this, she didn’t get the job, and she doesn’t feel like her husband cared about how crushed she was.
“I put my head down for long enough because I loved him and wanted to have our family. But I’ve finally had enough of his festering indecisiveness and how a lot of important things got a shrug from him. I resigned myself to being a housewife, but we’ve been having fights that have made living with him under this roof intolerable,” she explained.
Recently, she finally made the decision to file for divorce.
She and her husband had their first day of mediation, and when her husband walked into the room, he told her that he knew she despised him and wanted everything they agreed on to be fair for the both of them.
This was when her husband mentioned the accounts receivable position that someone he knows is hiring for.
He added that this could be a way for her to find some independence and earn some of her own money to spend however she wants.
She was able to shadow one of the employees at the office she would be working at.
“While the work is just entering data, mailing letters, and recording payments, it’s high volume, and at the end of the day, I was exhausted. Everybody in the office was younger, and it hurt that a 30-year-old would be my supervisor. I was too tired to go see my daughter and grandchild, and after telling friends this, they said my husband is just tricking me so that my alimony is lowered,” she shared.
In the end, she rejected the job offer, and when her husband found out about this, he asked her if she would rather work at a boutique.
She was furious and told her husband that she didn’t think it was fair that she had to start her career from square one at this stage in her life.
From there, she and her husband got into a huge fight, and her husband assured her that he’d only been trying to help her.
During conversations with her lawyer, she learned that alimony can be pretty complicated in Pennsylvania. But her lawyer told her that she would do her best to have her back and make sure that she was fairly compensated for her contributions throughout her marriage with her husband.
In her view, she thinks that her husband was indeed plotting to lower the amount he would owe her in alimony. She also wonders if her husband is going to convince the person who hired her to fire her after he achieves his goal of having her alimony payments lowered.
Do you think she was wrong to turn down the job offer?
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