After Her Teen Daughter Got Pregnant, She Told Her Daughter To Either Sue For Child Support Or Get Out Of Her House
When this 40-year-old woman’s daughter, Ava, got pregnant at 18, she dropped out of high school. At the time, Ava had been dating Andrew, who was 19. Andrew and his family are Mormon.
While Ava was considering her options, she was debating on not continuing the pregnancy, but Andrew expressed his beliefs and claimed that it would be wrong for her to do so.
Now, Ava is almost 19, her baby is 10-months-old, and she is unemployed. Andrew moved from Jacksonville, Florida, to Miami in order to attend college.
He never officially ended the relationship with Ava and instead tried to imply that he wanted to be in a long-distance relationship with her.
Andrew left his sleeping bag and a few toiletries in Ava’s bedroom in an attempt to prove to her that he would be there for her and their child.
“Now, he has changed his number and blocked Ava on social media after accusing her of cheating, so this could not be his baby. He ignores all communication offering for him to prove he’s not the dad,” she said.
She acknowledged that she hadn’t been tough enough with Ava, especially when she compared Ava to her two other children.
Her oldest daughter, 20, lives at home but has a weekend job as a barista, and she also recently got a job where she works three hours a day doing QuickBooks for a local church.
Plus, her oldest daughter is going to school to be an ultrasound technician, and she contributes $150 per month toward rent. If her daughter needs to purchase new clothes or wants to go out to eat, she pays for all of it herself.
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Her youngest child, her son, is 10-years-old, so she is responsible for all of his needs. She is a single mother, so she has to fund whatever her ex-partner’s child support doesn’t cover for her son’s necessities.
Ava is under the assumption that since she is essentially a high school “Super Senior,” she shouldn’t have to be financially responsible for her housing, groceries, clothing, or any other frivolous purchases. In Ava’s view, she is still a high schooler, even though she is legally an adult.
It’s terrible that Andrew ghosted Ava because it solidified the fact that he’s a bad person and started dating someone from his college.
This made it clear that he’s immature, and she’s concerned that Ava won’t start taking more responsibility unless she explicitly lays out what the consequences would be if she chose not to.
“I told her that she either has to show me concrete proof that she’s working toward a GED and then, if she passes, some sort of certification (in which case I’ll let her stay for free), or she needs to get a job. She can ask her sister if any restaurants are hiring or if a gym needs a front desk clerk. Whatever,” she explained.
In response to this, Ava expressed that she’d rather prefer to work on her schooling than get a job. She told Ava that regardless of the situation, Andrew was the baby’s father.
In addition, she said that Andrew’s young age doesn’t give him an excuse to get away with not paying any child support.
From her perspective, Andrew should be held accountable just like a 39-year-old man would be if he got his wife pregnant and then abandoned her.
Unfortunately, Ava was furious with her.
“Either Andrew or his siblings got into her head and said that if she filed, he would lose his scholarship or be forced out of college. And that the judge would probably say that Andrew cannot make any money in college, so she gets no support,” she shared.
She pointed out to Ava that she had no idea how expensive diapers and other baby supplies were, and if she chose not to file for child support, she would discover very quickly how much all of this is because she would be giving her $100 and kicking her out.
Then, she told Ava that if she had to buy diapers, she could go through the checkout line at the grocery store and see what the total was.
Also, she printed off information about government programs that Ava could apply to and taped them to her bedroom door.
What advice would you give her?
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