He Doesn’t Want To Spend Christmas With His In-Laws Anymore, But He’s Nervous About His Wife Calling Him A Grinch

This guy openly admits that he is a “Grinch” who genuinely dislikes Christmas, and he hasn’t enjoyed the holiday for a very long time.
However, he has a wife– whom he has been with for 10 years and married to for five years. He also only emigrated to the United States 11 years ago.
So, for the last 10 years, he has spent Christmas with his wife and her family since he no longer lives in the same country as his own relatives.
“I have never asked that we spend Christmas with my friends– a lot of whom are in the same boat as me with no family here– though I have mentioned I would like to,” he explained.
He also doesn’t get along very well with his own family anymore, aside from his dad. That’s why traveling back home for the holiday is not really an option, either.
This year, though, he is really not in the mood to spend Christmas with his in-laws again.
To be clear, it’s not that he doesn’t like his wife’s family at all. He actually gets along very well with his father-in-law, mother-in-law, and brothers-in-law. He feels like they’ve actually all been very warm and welcoming toward him.
Rather, it’s his wife’s extended family– including her grandmother and aunt– who he really doesn’t like.
“And I don’t feel like I should be made to spend a day that I already don’t enjoy with people I don’t enjoy being around,” he said.

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Not to mention, he and his wife have started their own little family since tying the knot. They currently have a 4-year-old daughter together, as well as a second baby on the way.
So, he wants to start spending Christmas with their tiny family. He is still open to seeing his in-laws for part of the holiday. However, he would really love to have lunch with just his wife and daughter, and possibly even some of his friends who don’t have family nearby either.
He has yet to talk to this about his wife, though, because he knows that she’s just going to get angry with him and accuse him of being a Christmas-hating Grinch.
“Which is true. I openly admit that I hate Christmas for many reasons,” he vented.
“But I still enjoy spoiling my wife and daughter and seeing how excited my daughter gets about Christmas.”
However, while he would really enjoy spending an intimate holiday with his wife and kid this year, he isn’t sure if he should broach the topic with his wife or just “keep his mouth shut” and spend Christmas with his in-laws for yet another year.
Is it understandable why he wants to spend some of Christmas Day with just his wife, daughter, and a few friends? Does it sound like he’s trying to upend his wife’s entire holiday plan, or is he willing to compromise and see his in-laws for part of the day? Do you think he should talk to his wife about this or not?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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