He Refused To Get More Serious With A Woman He’s Been Casually Seeing And Told Her It’s Because He Wants A Partner Who “Dresses With A Bit More Class”
This guy was introduced to a woman at a club a few weeks ago, and they’ve been casually seeing each other ever since. They only meet up once or twice a week to hook up.
“And we don’t usually go on dates just to keep things minimal,” he said.
But, more recently, he decided to go out on a few dates with the woman– taking her mini-golfing, bowling, and grabbing drinks– just because she was interested in going out. And while they were on their dates, he noticed that she tried hard to wear as little clothing as possible.
For instance, he realized that the woman’s shirt could barely contain her chest, and her shorts were simply way too short.
“It’s nice to look at,” he admitted, “But that’s not what I want in a long-term partner.”
Yet, just a few days ago, the woman visited his apartment and claimed that she wanted to talk about making their relationship more serious. So, at that point, he revealed how he was fine with keeping their arrangement casual.
Now, the woman was confused– especially since they got along very well– and she couldn’t understand why he wasn’t interested in a committed relationship.
This started a bickering argument between them, too, and eventually, he was forced to come clean.
“I just said that I don’t want to date her because of how she dresses,” he recalled.
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As you probably could have guessed, though, that didn’t put the argument to rest. Instead, the woman just wanted to know what was wrong with her fashion taste.
He quickly told her that nothing was explicitly wrong with it. Rather, he admitted that her wardrobe was just not his taste.
“I would like to date someone who dresses with a bit more class. No offense; it’s just a personal preference. Let’s just keep it casual between us,” he told her.
Well, the truth only made her get seriously offended, and she actually accused him of being a toxic and insecure jerk for not being comfortable with her expressing herself.
He tried to reiterate that his opinion was nothing to get upset about. He also suggested that they keep seeing each other casually.
“And surely it’s my right to have standards for a long-term partner,” he added.
Nonetheless, the woman just kept calling him a jerk. So now, he’s been left wondering if refusing to date her just because of the way she dresses is really so unreasonable or not.
Is he allowed to have preferences and standards for what he’s looking for in a partner? At the same time, was it a jerky move to try and keep seeing the woman while knowing he wasn’t interested in moving forward with her? How could he have handled this situation better?
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