She Ended Her Relationship With Her Boyfriend Because Her Son Didn’t Like Him, But Her Friend Claimed That Was Pathetic And That She Shouldn’t Let Her Son Control Her Dating Life
This woman and her boyfriend, Dave, have been in a relationship for the last three months.
They both have children from previous relationships, and they met because their children attended the same school.
So, they got acquainted because their children had friends in common, and they often saw each other at school events.
Eventually, Dave asked her out, and they had some amazing dates before they became exclusive as a couple.
She has two sons, and her oldest already knew Dave, but she didn’t formally introduce her sons to Dave as her boyfriend at the beginning of their relationship.
Two years ago, she and her ex-husband divorced, and since then, she’s dated a little bit throughout the past year.
Six weeks ago, she attended a festival with her sons and her cousin.
Dave was also there, and they waved to one another.
While her sons played a shooting game, Dave came over, and they talked for a while.
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After that, her son asked if she and Dave were in a relationship, and she told him that she was. At the time, her son seemed fine with this.
“Last Tuesday, my son outright told me he doesn’t like me dating Dave and begged me to ‘Please find somebody else.’ I asked why, and I asked if there was a problem with Dave, and he said he just didn’t like me dating him,” she said.
She tried to find out more from her son about why he didn’t like Dave, but he didn’t give her any more information.
Over and over, her son repeated that he didn’t want her to keep going out with Dave, and as he pleaded with her to end the relationship, his eyes were red, as if he was on the verge of tears.
The following day, she broke up with Dave because she could tell that her son was deeply upset about the relationship.
Plus, things weren’t very serious with Dave at this point because it was early in the relationship, so she didn’t have much of an issue with no longer dating him.
“He obviously was disappointed and kept asking for a reason and being in a casual relationship, I figured I was entitled to keep the reason to myself,” she explained.
During the breakup, she explained that the point of the relationship was to dip their toes in and see if they were a good fit. She continued, expressing that neither of them was to blame, but she wasn’t ready for a committed relationship at this point.
In response, Dave asked her if she was trying to get back together with her ex-husband. Even though she assured him that she wasn’t and that that wasn’t the reason she was ending the relationship, he didn’t seem to think she was being honest.
From her perspective, it wasn’t her responsibility to get him to believe her, so she ended the conversation.
“Last night, a friend asked me why I broke things off with Dave. I told her, and she snapped at me, saying I couldn’t let my son ‘control’ my dating life and how he was eventually going to get over it. Then, she went off on how Dave was in love with me, and this broke his heart. And how it’s pathetic I didn’t even get a concrete reason from my son,” she shared.
In the past several months, neither of her sons has expressed any negative feelings about her dating life or the men she’s gone out with.
Her oldest son’s desperate pleas for her to break up with Dave concerned her since she’d never seen him act like this before.
She’s planning to give her son some time to get his thoughts together before she has another conversation with him to ask for more specific reasons as to why he didn’t like Dave. She’s hoping that her son will feel more comfortable talking to her now that she ended the relationship.
Do you think she did the right thing?
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