Her Fiancé Lives With His Younger Brother, But She Doesn’t Want To Move In With The Two Of Them
Next year, this woman and her fiancé are getting married. Her fiancé and his younger brother own a house together.
In their contract, there’s a stipulation stating, “‘The first to get married has the option to buy the other out.'”
Because her fiancé earns a lot more money than his brother, his brother wouldn’t be able to afford to live in the house alone if her fiancé took advantage of this stipulation and then moved out.
Despite the rest of her fiancé’s family not stating this idea, her fiancé and his brother have said that they want to continue living together for several years after she and her fiancé get married.
If she agreed to this living situation, both she and her son would move into the house with her fiancé and his brother.
“My son is little, and the home isn’t split into two. It’s the same living space (single family). We’ve been dating for a long time, and we are trying to start a family not long after we get married. My issue is that I don’t feel super comfortable doing that while living in the same space as his brother (who I love dearly). I would be walking on eggshells,” she said.
Plus, she doesn’t know how her fiancé’s brother would feel about both her and her son living with him since they would be moving into the house he owns.
In her view, his brother would probably prefer this and is just relieved that her fiancé hasn’t brought up the idea of buying him out.
“My fiancé hasn’t done this because he 1. Doesn’t want to give up his interest in the property and wants to keep it as an investment property; and 2. Feels bad that his brother wouldn’t be able to own property without him (though I am sure his parents would help his brother since his brother is kind of their favorite (they even still pay for his brother’s car),” she explained.
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While she doesn’t have a preference for where she, her son, and her fiancé live, she doesn’t want anyone else living with them. She thinks it’s important that they have a place for themselves.
She and her fiancé both earn about the same amount of money, so finances aren’t an issue. They would be comfortable living somewhere, just the three of them.
In order to fund his half of the mortgage, her fiancé could have a tenant move into the house he owns with his brother so that she and her fiancé could get their own place together.
Unfortunately, his brother would reject the idea of someone random living with him, and her fiancé wouldn’t feel comfortable asking one of his cousins or other siblings to pay rent.
“This probably would be less of an issue for me if it weren’t so layered in with the fact that my fiancé is the scapegoat of the family, and he has basically been expected to subsidize his family/siblings’ lives since he was 18,” she shared.
The entire ordeal has been tough for her to cope with, and she knows that her fiancé’s parents would be furious with him if he even considered the idea of buying his brother out.
She predicted that their parents would pitch in more to help his brother if it came to that and his brother needed more financial support.
What advice would you give her?
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