Her Husband’s Best Friend Proposed To His Girlfriend At Her Wedding

IVASHstudio - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
IVASHstudio - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual people

This 24-year-old girl got married to her 26-year-old husband at the beginning of the year, and their wedding was nearly perfect.

Her husband’s best friend, Luke, whom he has been close to for two decades, was asked to be her husband’s best man.

Unfortunately, Luke got down on one knee at her wedding and proposed to his girlfriend, which ruined everything for her.

“I know some people find it very sweet and endearing when close friends or family get engaged at their wedding, and that’s what I was told by many people at the time,” she explained.

“I don’t feel that way, however, and thought it was very rude to announce something like that at a wedding and take the attention away from the couple.”

“My husband disagrees and says that it was okay because he gave them permission but had somehow never thought to tell me even though it was my wedding too.”

Her husband excused it all away by saying he was concerned that she would have told Luke’s girlfriend about the surprise proposal.

The thing is, she doesn’t know Luke’s girlfriend well at all, and she never would have told this girl about the proposal if she had been clued in beforehand.

She’s no longer livid with her husband for giving Luke permission to do this, but she still has not forgiven Luke or his girlfriend for stealing the spotlight away from her.

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“What made me even more furious was that I felt they were taking advantage of our wedding, the decor, venue, props, photographer, etc., which we had put out hard-earned money into and worked hours overtime for,” she said.

“People were obviously very excited for them and were swooning over them the whole night, and I felt that they were intentionally showing off, which just [angered] me…even more.”

Prior to the prosal, she was on good terms with Luke, but that’s disappeared now. In the aftermath, she informed Luke of how she felt but has not said a word to him since.

Her husband, on the other hand, frequently hangs out with Luke and keeps him as a close friend. Luke just announced that he’s going to have his wedding next year, and she was invited to attend along with her husband.

She feels uneasy going to the wedding, but she mentioned to her husband he is free to go alone.

The wedding is also taking place pretty far from where they live, and she doesn’t think it’s worth spending her money and time on Luke.

Her husband has since called her selfish and petty for not wanting to go to the wedding. He also told her that her attendance is basically mandatory since he’s Luke’s best man and will look bad without her by his side.

“He also said that I should just support the couple on their big day even if I don’t like them it would be rude because they came to our wedding,” she continued.

“I just told him that was funny, considering how they “supported” us on our big day. If I’m being honest, I don’t care about being rude to the couple I just don’t want my husband to think I’m intentionally trying to be rude. I just don’t want to go because I don’t feel comfortable going to the wedding of people I don’t like.”

What advice do you have for her?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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