She Told Her Husband That She Wanted Her Thirtieth Birthday To Feel Special, But She Still Expected More From Him When The Day Came
This woman and her husband have been married for three years and have a daughter, who is only 9 months old, together. Just yesterday, it was also her birthday, and she turned 30.
But when it comes to anything involving presents, like birthdays and holidays, they normally don’t make a “big fuss.” After all, they share just one joint bank account. So, it’s hard to pull off surprise purchases, which is why she and her husband usually just openly ask if there is a specific gift either of them wants.
While this is the norm in her household, though, she did admit to getting repeatedly disappointed this year on multiple large milestones.
It all began when she gave birth to her daughter, and she clearly told her husband that she would really appreciate receiving a birthing gift– otherwise known as a “push present.”
“Which is supposed to be some jewelry or something to remind you of the birth,” she noted.
Well, their daughter wound up arriving a bit earlier than anticipated, and everything was quite hectic and stressful. So, she never received her birthing gift after all.
Then came her first Mother’s Day following the arrival of her daughter, but she didn’t receive a present that day, either.
“Just some little acknowledgment, like letting me sleep in or saying, ‘Happy first Mother’s Day. You are doing great,'” she recalled.
“But the only person that said that to me on that day was my own mother. However, on my husband’s first Father’s Day, I stood up with the baby and prepared breakfast in bed for him.”
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So, on her birthday yesterday, she came clean to her husband about feeling kind of disappointed on Mother’s Day.
She also told him that she wanted to feel special on her thirtieth birthday.
“I didn’t expect any presents, just knowing that he thought about me. For example, a little birthday note or him working from home that day so that I didn’t have to be alone most of the day,” she explained.
But unfortunately, the day didn’t play out as she had hoped.
In the morning, her husband sang Happy Birthday to her before work. Then, he left for his shift and arrived back home in the afternoon.
At that point, they invited some friends over and drank wine. However, all of their guests left quite early since it was a weekday, and she had to tend to her daughter’s schedule.
That’s why, later on that night, she decided to just order sushi and asked her husband if they could play some Scrabble.
“A game that I really enjoy, but he is not the biggest fan of,” she said.
Still, they played it together, and her husband won. Afterward, he just went to bed.
So, in her mind, only two “special” things happened on her birthday. First, they got to play a game that her husband normally isn’t on board for. Secondly, she ordered in food instead of cooking, even though she still had to cook for the baby.
And quite frankly, she was hoping for something “more” on her birthday. But she’s not sure if expecting more from her husband makes her a jerk or not.
“Should I just be happy about a relaxed birthday?” she asked.
Have you ever been let down on a birthday? Does it sound like she clearly communicated what she wanted to her husband? How can she more effectively tell him what she wants to avoid this happening again in the future?
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