His Girlfriend’s Dad Won’t Give Him Permission To Marry Her And Thinks She Deserves Better
Ever since this 30-year-old guy started dating his 27-year-old girlfriend, Tera, he knew her dad, Al, didn’t approve of him.
He really has gone out of his way to try to form some kind of a relationship with Al but to no avail.
Al is cordial to him but clearly dislikes him for reasons he doesn’t exactly understand. Surprisingly, Tera’s mom Betty adores him and is a fan of him dating Tera.
He works as a registered nurse, and Al used to always take shots at him about how medical professionals can’t be trusted.
But when Al needed stents and angioplasty, he changed his tune and became a believer in medical professionals, though that didn’t result in Al warming up to him.
So, as for why Al hates him, it can’t be what he does for a living, though he suspects it might be the fact that Tera is Al’s only daughter, and he’s super protective of her.
Right now, he’s ready to propose to Tera, but she asked him to please get Al’s permission before getting down on one knee.
“She’s a bit of a daddy’s girl, and she thought this was a cute, if not outdated, tradition,” he explained.
“We were going to spend Christmas Dinner with her parents. She took her mom out for a walk so I could ask her dad for his permission to marry her. He said ‘no,’ that he couldn’t support our marriage because he thought she deserved better. It’s some weird power play I don’t understand. Maybe he really thinks I’m not right for his daughter.”
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“I told him it wouldn’t make a difference, Tera was going to marry me either way, he’s just hurting his relationship with her, and he’s risking not being involved in our lives.”
After Tera returned from her walk with her mom Betty, he pulled her aside and told her in private that Al didn’t give him permission to marry her.
Tera figured he was pranking her, but then her shock turned to anger. He grabbed Betty so she could go speak to Al while Al ran to hide in the family basement.
Betty and Tera went downstairs to confront Al, and it did not go well at all. Tera eventually came storming back up the stairs, and they left her family home before having dinner that night.
Tera is currently not speaking to Al, and Betty has since phoned them both up in an effort to get them to say something to Al. Betty promises that Al is ready to give them permission to get engaged after all.
“Tera said she doesn’t care, she’s not interested in his opinion,” he said. “Tera told her mom she’s willing to talk to her as long as she doesn’t mention her dad, if she tries to put him on the phone, she’s hanging up and not answering her calls anymore.”
“I still haven’t proposed because I’m waiting for all the drama to die down. She’s not ready to talk to her dad. It’s only been a few days.”
“How do I help my GF navigate the relationship with her dad? If I was being honest, I’d tell her never to talk to him again, but that’s not healthy. I just want what’s best for her.”
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