She Dumped Her Boyfriend After She Found Out He Had A Secret Child

nikkimeel - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
nikkimeel - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This 21-year-old girl and her 22-year-old boyfriend have been dating for a year, and their relationship is excellent.

They are currently long-distance, as they live two hours apart, and so she sees him approximately twice every month.

When she has college breaks, she gets to spend more time with her boyfriend too. For instance, over the summer, her boyfriend spent several weeks with her.

Now, every time she does see her boyfriend, he comes to her city, while she never has traveled to his.

Her boyfriend has a trust fund and is financially well off, and she isn’t, so that’s the reason why he always comes to her.

A week ago, she decided to change things up and drive to her boyfriend’s apartment. As she arrived, everything was great, but then she walked into his apartment.

“There was a high chair in the kitchen as well as baby toys in the living room, and his second bedroom was a nursery,” she explained.

“I was confused at first, I knew his oldest sister just had a baby, but she lived on the other side of the country, and there was no way possible that I have known him for a year and a half and didn’t know he had a kid, right?”

“Well, I [was] proved wrong when he got back with him was his child (2? F). I was shocked, to say the least. I asked him why he had never decided to mention that he is a dad to me before, and he said he has. He most definitely has not.”

nikkimeel – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

She did sleep over that night and spent time with him and his daughter, but the following morning, she left in a hurry after claiming to have some kind of emergency.

Not only was she completely shocked to find out that her boyfriend has been hiding his child from her, but she has made it crystal clear to him that she never wants to have children.

She’s so vocal about this that every single person who knows her is aware of her desire to live her life child-free.

“A child has always been a deal breaker for me,” she said. “He called me two days after I left asking if everything was alright, and I flat out told him no.”

“He has a kid I had no clue about, and he knows that children are deal breakers with me, and I told him it was over. Since then, he, as well as his friends, have been texting me and DMing me on socials, saying I am being selfish for calling it quits with him.”

“He is also going as far [as] to say that his kid already sees me as her mom, and it is selfish of me to lead him on for so long when I already knew of this. He seems to think that the relationship can be saved since it’s not my own child, and I wouldn’t have to go through pregnancy or any of the side effects of it.”

Her boyfriend is insisting on coming to see her this weekend with his child, but she does not know how to respond to him.

What do you think she should do?

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