She Found Out Her Boyfriend’s Been Snapchatting Other Girls For Months Behind Her Back, And She Isn’t Sure How To Feel About It

Zamrznuti tonovi - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Zamrznuti tonovi - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This 26-year-old woman is currently in a relationship, and just yesterday, she got into her 31-year-old boyfriend’s car and noticed something strange. Apparently, his cell phone was just sitting there, unlocked, with Snapchat pulled up on the screen.

Now, she claimed that she’d never once gone through her boyfriend’s phone since she always trusted him. But, when she saw the names of at least six girls in his recent Snapchat conversations, she started to get worried– especially because some of the conversations had taken place just 10 minutes before her boyfriend picked her up.

According to her, the fact that he was talking to other girls, regardless of whether they were “just friends,” violated a specific boundary in their relationship, too.

Her boyfriend had even been the one who set that boundary, saying that neither of them could have friends of the opposite gender.

“In his exact words, ‘Guys can’t be friends with girls because they’ll always secretly want more and wait for an opportunity,'” she revealed.

She did clarify that both she and her boyfriend are allowed to interact with people of the opposing gender in group settings. And she never had a problem with her boyfriend’s boundaries since all of her friends were women anyway.

However, privately messaging other women on social media is completely different, and she couldn’t understand why her boyfriend would do that.

That’s why she decided to confront him about the Snapchat conversations she saw, but her boyfriend just tried to play it off. He claimed that he and the other women were just college friends and that they only spoke about school stuff.

She found that pretty fishy, though, since her boyfriend is right in the middle of a college break right now– so there shouldn’t be anything to talk about.

Zamrznuti tonovi – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“And either way, he knows this is way past our boundaries, and he’s kept it secret from me for months at least,” she explained.

“I knew there were girls in his college friend group, but he told me a few months back that he didn’t have any of them on social media. Obviously, that changed, and he didn’t tell me because I ‘didn’t ask again.'”

She’s never had to deal with such an issue in their relationship, either, which is why she really isn’t sure how to feel about it.

She made it clear to her boyfriend that she was obviously upset, and she thought it seemed as though he realized that he had messed up.

Nonetheless, alarm bells are still going off in her head. So, she wound up asking her boyfriend to just remove his female friends on Snapchat, and he swore that he would.

“But now I just have to trust that he won’t re-add them or make a separate account to chat with them,” she vented.

“And I asked to see their messages a few times, but he kept stalling or changing the subject when I tried.”

Her boyfriend’s reaction has left her feeling really worried, too. So now, she can’t help but wonder if getting upset that he’s been talking to other girls behind her back is really so unreasonable or not.

How would you feel if you found out your partner broke the boundary they personally set and spoke to other women behind your back? Should she be concerned about her boyfriend’s faithfulness or not? How would you handle this?

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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