She Wouldn’t Allow Her Husband To Be In The Prep Room Before She Went In For Surgery, And He’s Been Upset Ever Since That She Didn’t Let Him “Support Her”

Yakobchuk Olena - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Yakobchuk Olena - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This woman recently had to go in for a minor outpatient surgery. But, in her husband’s family, they tend to make a big deal about medical procedures.

In fact, whenever any one of her in-laws goes in for a procedure, her husband’s family thinks it’s their “duty” to actually set up a vigil in the hospital waiting room.

Her family, on the other hand, is filled with a bunch of nurses. So, they all believe that having such a large family presence in the hospital is actually unnecessary and even puts a burden on medical staff.

“Unless you’re literally dying, we will be at home waiting for the call to pick you up,” she said.

So, when it came time for her surgery prep, she actually “shooed” her husband away at the hospital door.

She tried to tell him that she was completely fine and assured him that they would see each other again in just a few hours.

Now, her husband did try to push back and stay with her for “support” in the surgery prep room. But when he did, she refused to budge.

“Gee, babe? What’re you gonna do? Hand the doctor the scalpel?” she jokingly asked him.

She thought her remark was pretty funny, too, and the other nurse with her also laughed. Then, the nurse even helped her get rid of her husband.

Yakobchuk Olena – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

Her surgery went completely fine, too. She felt great afterward upon receiving pain medication, and she was thrilled to see her husband when he arrived to pick her up.

But, ever since she’s started recovering, her husband has been acting really ticked off and distant.

“He told me I was cold, didn’t take his feelings into account, and that he would have liked to ‘support’ me,” she revealed.

“And that I have no right to ask for support now when I wouldn’t accept it earlier.”

She also admitted that, yes, she does want her husband’s support right now. She currently needs some help with things like getting around their house, making meals, and getting dressed.

“And I did not need his help when I was unconscious, but I guess I can see why he might be feeling rejected?” she wondered aloud.

So, with her husband still so upset with her, she’s now unsure if refusing to let him “support” her in his own way during the surgery was really a jerky thing to do.

Do you agree that family members being present in hospitals does more harm than good? Regardless, since she was the patient, was it up to her to decide what kind of support she needed? What should she do in this sticky situation?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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