As Soon As She Lost A Ton Of Weight, Her Husband Started Treating Her Better, So She Wants To File For Divorce
This 28-year-old woman and her 29-year-old husband have been together for seven years, and they got married five years ago.
After getting married, they went on to have a child, who is now three. She admits she severely struggled to lose the baby weight she gained after giving birth, and it also was hard for her to adjust to being a mom.
She let herself go as she was attempting to navigate motherhood and a whole new way of living since her appearance was not the first priority for her.
Sadly, her husband began making negative comments regarding her body. He would tell her she needed to wear makeup again and work out.
“It made me feel really awful, and I worried that he might start looking elsewhere because we weren’t being [physical] anymore,” she explained.
Her husband tried to get her to hire a nanny; that way, she could invest more time into herself, but she said no.
She really wanted to be present for their baby full-time, and he was furious with her for choosing to do this.
So, he started acting really distant and pulled back. He treated her coldly instead of kindly. For months on end, her husband showed her no affection, let alone any whisper of romance. He would not kiss her or hug her, and this caused her self-esteem to plummet.
“Every time I looked in the mirror, all I saw were the flaws that my husband pointed out,” she said.
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“By this point, our son was already 2-years-old, and I desperately wanted to win my husband back. I thought that if I got in shape again, he would show me love and affection, and our marriage would be saved.”
“I craved his attention so much, and it hurt to see how much things had changed. But you can’t force someone to be affectionate.”
She decided enough was enough, and she did something about her appearance. She freed up her time by hiring someone to help her care for her son, and she went to the gym, started going to swimming classes, and got her lashes and nails done.
She also began eating a lot healthier, and she lost a ton of weight. She currently feels absolutely fabulous about her progress.
Out of nowhere, her husband began kissing her and being affectionate. He purchased flowers for her and treated her like a queen, which hadn’t happened since before her pregnancy.
Instead of making her feel happy, her husband’s behavior made her feel awful. She couldn’t stop playing the offensive words he said when she was at her heaviest over and over in her mind.
“I get that you can’t force attraction, but why couldn’t he just hug me or give me a kiss on the cheek even when I was overweight?” she wondered.
“Why couldn’t he love me as a human being and the mother of his child? When my self-esteem came back, I got really angry at myself for putting up with his behavior for so long.”
“A few days ago, I told him I wanted a divorce because I don’t think I can move past how badly he treated me. He apologized and promised to change and prove that he can be better.”
She feels as if she can no longer trust in her husband. If she suffers from some kind of health problem or gains weight in the future, she’s worried that her husband will resort to treating her like trash.
She asked her loved ones to weigh in on everything, and some of them believe her husband deserves a second chance, while the rest want her to leave him far behind.
She’s not sure if she has a right to feel so upset, and she’s also not convinced her husband can change his tune on a long enough timeline.
What do you think she should do; is divorce the best move?
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