He Called His Wife Fat While Talking To A Coworker, And His Coworker Freaked Out
If you’re a heavy-set person, how do you feel about the word ‘fat?’ There are a lot of heavy and curvy people out there who can’t stand the word fat and see being called ‘fat’ as offensive since it has negative connotations in American culture.
However, many big people are reclaiming the word ‘fat’ and don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. They’ll go as far as confidently calling themselves fat and being okay with it.
One man’s wife confidently calls herself fat, and so does he. But when a coworker heard him refer to his wife as fat, she was horrified and accused him of being abusive. He’s 34 and is married to his 32-year-old wife, Carol.
“My wife is fat,” he explained.
“The thing is, she’s always been fat. The whole time I’ve known her. We dated when she was fat; we got married when she was fat. She knows she’s fat.”
“She’s fat, and she’s beautiful. I’m happy if she loses weight, and I’m happy if she stays where she is. I think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world.”
He works in a physically demanding field, and most of his coworkers are in great shape. One of his coworkers is a 28-year-old woman named Julia who is in great shape but is convinced that she’s overweight and insecure about her body.
The other day, he heard Julia saying she’s “too fat to be loved” and that fat people “don’t get to be loved.”
He thought he’d make Julia feel better by telling her that’s not true, that his wife is fat and he loves her.
LIGHTFIELD STUDIOS – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“She got really red in the face and started telling me I wasn’t allowed to call my wife fat, that I was insulting her, and that my wife was beautiful and curvy,” he recalled.
“Carol doesn’t like being called curvy. She thinks it’s a label used to avoid calling people fat because it’s a dirty word to most people. I told Julia as much.”
Julia was horrified by his comments and began threatening to DM Carol on Instagram and let her know he was calling her fat in front of everyone.
He beat Julia to the punch and called Carol on the spot. He put her on speakerphone and asked if she preferred to be called curvy or fat.
Carol explained she was “fat and beautiful” and didn’t like being called curvy. While he hoped that would make Julia feel better, it didn’t.
“As soon as I [hung up], Julia went mental,” he remembered.
“She started screaming that I was abusing my wife. When I asked how she said I was clearly brainwashing her into accepting the term fat to try to keep her complacent and from getting away from me. [She said] that no woman in her right mind could be okay with their husband calling them fat.”
Julia stormed off after her outburst and hasn’t spoken to him since. A few days later, he got an email from HR stating that they’d like to meet with him.
He never intended for this to become such a big deal. He only wanted his wife to inspire Julia to feel more confident in her own skin.
Was he wrong to call his wife ‘fat’ in front of his coworkers, or was Julia overreacting?
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