His Ex-Wife Called Him A Selfish Deadbeat For Flaunting His Money On Social Media
This man has custody of his children two weekends each month. He and his ex-wife came to this agreement on their own, outside of court.
He’d tried to fight in court for equal custody, but it was too expensive for him to keep battling, so he surrendered and gave up his right to court-mandated custody.
His rent was already a high expense for him, and adding in the child support he had to pay, it was too much money for him to continue going to court to get more custody.
Because of this, the amount he owed each month in child support went up by 10%, but the child support he owed was less than his rent.
So, he moved into his parents’ basement so that he could save up money. Then, a co-worker of his named Richard was on the hunt for an inexpensive apartment to rent out.
He came up with the idea of Richard moving into his parents’ basement while he stayed in his childhood bedroom, which had been converted into a gym.
He knew this would be a lot to expect of his parents, but he walked them through how much they could charge Richard for rent. They agreed, and Richard, whom he now considers his best friend, moved into the basement.
For two years, he lived in his childhood bedroom, and he was grateful that his parents allowed him to do this while he saved up even money to move out. During that time, he only spent money on essentials like food and child support.
He never purchased clothing, took trips, or went anywhere where he would have to spend money. Eventually, he started house hunting, but he wasn’t eligible for a mortgage because of his child support payments.
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“I took my savings, and my parents combined it with rent money from Richard to put a downpayment on a house. I have lived in that house for six years now,” he said.
“I ‘rent’ it from my parents in the sense that they take normal rent from me and pay the mortgage, and the rest goes into a fund for me. I have a roommate, too, so, technically, I live for free.”
Due to his parents’ help, he’s been able to continue saving up more money over the years. Richard also moved out and bought a house of his own, coincidentally nearby.
His parents have since been renting out their basement to someone else because the house was too quiet without anyone else living with them.
Although he struggled for a couple of years, he has become more financially comfortable and happy with his life over the last few years. He’s been able to save up enough money to go toward his future retirement.
“After six years, I finally have discretionary money to spend. So, last year, I took a week off from work and traveled with my girlfriend,” he explained.
“And I flaunted it on social media. My ex-wife suddenly started texting me that I was a deadbeat (I never missed a child support payment) and selfish, as I should have taken the kids on vacation.”
Years ago, when he relinquished his custody, he would have to plead with his ex-wife to be able to visit their children.
One day, she demanded that he pay more in child support and didn’t allow him to speak with their children if he didn’t agree to this.
“That was the last day I ever contacted her or my kids. So, I really didn’t think she would have let me take my kids on vacation,” he shared.
“It was not easy to reach the place I am at now. But I made it by sacrifice on my part and my parents’ part.”
He’s proud of himself for the progress he’s made and that now he has a home to call his own and enough money to put away for the future.
Since he believes he worked hard for everything he has, he thinks it’s well within his rights to show off and spend his money how he chooses.
Do you think he was wrong for flaunting about his vacation on social media?
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