She Canceled Her Wedding And Gave Her Engagement Ring Back Because Her Mother-In-Law Hates Her
For the last 12 years, this 29-year-old woman has been dating her now-fiancé. For the entirety of their relationship, her fiancé’s mother has despised her, and she had no idea why.
She suspected that it was because his mother was envious of her. Before she and her fiancé started dating, he was a quintessential “Momma’s boy.”
When she and her fiancé learned that she was three months pregnant, he proposed to her. She accepted his proposal and was looking forward to planning their wedding. After hiring a wedding planner, chaos began.
“My mother-in-law told everyone that I was a bad woman for not taking care of my own wedding, that I was tying up her son with a pregnancy, and that I was lazy,” she said.
She and her fiancé both financially contributed to paying for the wedding. Because they’ve been in a relationship for so many years, they have a joint savings account, and they’ve been able to save up quite a lot of money.
Throughout their relationship, they had numerous discussions about how, if they ever broke up, they agreed that they would divide the money from the savings account in half.
They’ve been using money from this savings account for their wedding. However, her mother-in-law wasn’t happy with this and told her that traditionally, the bride’s dad is the one who pays for the wedding.
She doesn’t have a father, so her fiancé’s mother told her that because of that, she should be the one paying for the wedding on her own.
During these arguments, her fiancé defended her, telling his mother that her complaints about how they’re funding their wedding were idiotic.
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He added that she shouldn’t be whining since he hadn’t asked her to contribute anything to the wedding.
Later, he warned his mother that if she continued fighting with them, she would no longer be allowed to attend the wedding at all, but this didn’t stop her from causing trouble.
“Everything collapsed when I tried some things from the banquet and realized they had nuts and other things to which I am allergic, although I did report my allergies to the coordinator. I ended up in the emergency room. Luckily, nothing happened to my baby,” she explained.
When her fiancé contacted the coordinator of the meal that was served at the event, the coordinator claimed that he corresponded with her via email, but he only received a list of allergies her fiancé had, and the information he received stated she didn’t have any food allergies.
A while ago, she and her fiancé gave his mother their old computer, and his emails still go to the account on the old computer, the one his mother now uses.
Because of this, he right away assumed that his mother had something to do with this miscommunication.
After the incident, he told his mother he didn’t want to talk to her anymore, but as time went on, he changed his mind and got back in touch with his mother.
After her fiancé started communicating with his mother again, she didn’t know how to feel. She started to lose faith in him and didn’t know if he was still on her side or if he would start prioritizing his mother’s feelings instead. It concerned her that her mother-in-law didn’t seem to care about her well-being or her pregnancy.
While she still loves her fiancé, she already loves her child, a son, more. She’s terrified of her mother-in-law, and after the allergic reaction that put her in the hospital, she started canceling numerous wedding-related events.
As she received back the deposits from vendors, she put the money back in the joint savings account.
She did this without consulting her fiancé, and he only discovered that she’d been canceling everything when he went to the bakery where they were getting their wedding cake.
He’d gone to check on the ingredients they were using for the cake, and they told him the order had been canceled.
After hearing this, he called her to find out what was going on, and she suggested that they get together in person to talk.
“I told him that I no longer felt safe about getting married, that I loved him, but I didn’t feel safe that the two of us (me and my baby) would be close to his family, that I wouldn’t marry him, but that he would be part of our baby’s life. He told me that he was willing to stay away from everyone for both of us, but I couldn’t believe him,” she shared.
Her fiancé has assured her in the past that he would stop communicating with his mother and other toxic family members, but he’s always gone back on his word, so during this recent conversation, she knew that he wouldn’t keep his promise.
She doubled down on her decision not to marry him, and she gave him her engagement ring back. Then, she walked him through all of the deposits that she’d been able to get back so far and returned them to their savings account.
Unfortunately, a few places didn’t refund her, so she told her fiancé that she took the hit on those. She had also already evenly split the money from the savings account and taken her portion out of it. Since she ended their engagement a couple of weeks ago, she’s been understandably heartbroken, and her fiancé is, too.
When she told their mutual friends what happened, some of them took her side and said she made the right decision, while others didn’t agree with her deciding to end the engagement.
After the breakup, her fiancé’s mother gossiped to everyone and lied about how the breakup went down, claiming that her fiancé was the one who dumped her.
Her mother-in-law also told people that she was pregnant with another man’s baby, so people believed the lie and said terrible things to her.
What advice would you give her?
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