She Kicked Her Husband Out After He Got His Friend Pregnant, And While She Still Loves Him, She Just Can’t Trust Him Anymore
This 27-year-old woman and her husband, 29, started dating when they were in high school. He and a woman named Lily, 28, are friends, but they don’t get together much because Lily is engaged.
She never felt like she had a reason to be concerned about her husband’s friendship with Lily. Their relationship always felt stable and secure. Plus, they have a 6-year-old daughter together, who is the light of her life.
Recently, she brought her daughter over to a friend’s house so that they could have a sleepover. She got along really well with the friend’s mother, so the two of them hung out drinking wine and chatting the entire night, and she ended up falling asleep at the woman’s house.
While she stayed over at her daughter’s friend’s house, her husband was at their house and spent the night alone.
Several weeks after the sleepover, she arrived home from work to find her husband and Lily sitting on the couch together, clearly waiting to talk to her.
“My husband kisses me and says that he loves me. Then, Lily says she is pregnant. I asked her how far along she was, and she said about four weeks,” she said.
“I, being the idiot I am, asked if her fiancé knew. She said no because it wasn’t his child. I got confused, and then my husband started apologizing. Whenever I’m upset, I tend to get violent.”
In a rage, she shoved her husband onto the floor, screaming for him to pack up his stuff and get out. He pleaded with her, asking if he could at least tell her what happened.
According to her husband, he was lonely on the night that she slept over at her daughter’s friend’s house, so he talked to Lily, and she stopped by to watch a movie.
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During their time together, Lily told him that her physical life with her fiancé wasn’t what she wanted it to be. Eventually, Lily came onto him, and they hooked up.
After hearing her husband’s explanation, she marched upstairs to their bedroom and started packing a bag of his stuff. He followed behind her, apologizing.
“He begged and pleaded with me. I kept saying, ‘How could you? I thought you loved me,’ and stuff along those lines,” she explained.
“Then, he kept trying to hug me, and I started crying hard. I felt betrayed because I loved this man. He was the man of my dreams, and he cheated on me.”
Eventually, she calmed down a bit after crying hysterically for a while. Her husband asked her to take time to process and reflect and to remember the wonderful times they’ve shared. Then, he assured her that this was a lapse in judgment and would never do it again.
As he talked, he claimed that he wanted to stay together and didn’t want to leave her for Lily. But none of this won her over.
She expressed that she still wanted him to get out and said she would give him a call if she was ready to work toward moving forward and forgiving him.
“He got angry and said, ‘Fine. You’re making a huge mistake. You know we need each other. I spent the last few days missing him a lot,” she shared.
“He came over for Christmas and gave gifts to me and our daughter. I still love him, and I want to forgive him, but I don’t trust him anymore.”
Since her husband left, they have continued seeing each other, and they were physical on several occasions.
What usually happened was her husband would come over to the house, he’d give her hugs and hold her, and then things would escalate, and they would end up hooking up.
Now, she doesn’t know what she should do. She can’t decide if she could work toward forgiveness or if it would be a better option to divorce her husband.
She found out about her husband’s affair two months ago, and he has spent that time living with his parents.
His parents know what has been going on, and Lily is also aware that she and her husband aren’t currently living together.
A while ago, Lily suffered a miscarriage. Her husband hadn’t been in contact with Lily, but she heard the news about the miscarriage from Lily’s fiancé (Lily eventually did tell her fiancé about the pregnancy).
What advice would you give her?
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