She Told Her Daughter She Needs To Get Divorced In Order To Keep Living With Her, As It Will Save Thousands
This woman says that right now, in her household, everything is getting pretty tough to deal with. She and her husband have a 26-year-old daughter who got married right after graduating from college.
Not too long after her daughter tied the knot, the epilepsy she previously struggled with returned, and then her daughter’s father-in-law went through a tough time financially, so it was left to her daughter’s husband to support them all.
Her daughter was no longer able to work because of her epilepsy, which meant her daughter’s husband was the only one in their house bringing in any money.
So, her daughter’s husband had to not only financially provide for her daughter; he had to help pay for his own dad and his little siblings, too, so they wouldn’t lose the roof over their heads.
“This and her medical costs quickly drained their small savings to the point that they couldn’t keep up their apartment, so she moved back in with us “temporarily,” she explained.
“That was 2 years ago. Despite having a nursing degree, she can’t actually work in that field because it isn’t safe anymore. She can work part-time now, but the jobs she can safely do don’t pay enough.”
“He has a full-time job, but between student loans and paying the entire rent at his father’s townhouse, he can’t help out, which means all her expenses are on us, including the cost of her insurance and all her medical costs that insurance doesn’t cover.”
She and her own husband can no longer afford to financially provide for their daughter. They have two younger children who are going to college, which they need to help pay for.
On top of that, she and her husband need to begin saving a ton more money if they want to ever dream of retiring.
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Her husband does have a pension, which helps a small amount, but she does not. She and her husband are also not the types to kick their kids out of their house as soon as they’re legally adults, but the money they’re spending alone on their daughter is making them drown.
Since her daughter is married, the issue is her “income” means that she doesn’t make enough money to qualify for any kind of financial assistance.
If her daughter was divorced and considered single, she would be eligible. So, she finally told her daughter that she needs to file for divorce if she wants to keep living in their house.
“Normally, this would be gross overstepping and doesn’t even align with my values, but it has to happen,” she added.
She knows this is a crushing thing to have to say to her daughter, and she in no way blames her daughter or her daughter’s husband for being in such a terrible situation.
She completely understands that her daughter’s husband could not stand by and allow his dad and little siblings to be homeless.
Things have to seriously change, however, as neither she and her husband nor her daughter’s husband can afford to keep going in this way.
“Obviously, she’s fighting us on this,” she said. “She’s been angry for days about how we’re “going against our values” and destroying her happiness.”
“All true, but unfortunately, this has to happen. This would save us all thousands of dollars a year, money we all need.”
“She’s trying to get sympathy from our family, who are trying to make us reconsider, but we’ve done the math and gotten as much advice as we can. This is the only option, but [am I mean] for forcing it with an ultimatum?”
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