A Guy Who Previously Rejected Her Is Now All Interested In A Relationship After She Lost A Lot Of Weight
If you’ve undergone some sort of transformation, like a dramatic weight loss, did you notice that people who would usually blow you off suddenly became interested in you?
One woman is unsure how to feel after a guy from a dating app who once rejected her came back around after she lost a bunch of weight.
She’s 31 and met a 33-year-old guy on the dating app Bumble in the fall. They texted for two months before finally going on their first date, which she thought went well.
“He ended up sending me a text, stating he was not actually ready for a long-term connection,” she said.
“I did think the rejection [was] intense given our one date. I let him know I understood, reminded him we hadn’t discussed a long-term relationship, and [that] I saw the date as just a vibe check to get to know each other better, despite our texting. I was disappointed we didn’t explore it further, but understood.”
Over the last few months, she managed to stay connected with this guy and saw him occasionally. They grabbed coffees together and hung out at each other’s places.
Although she couldn’t get him to commit to a serious relationship, he would do things a boyfriend is expected to do, like walk her home from a bar late at night and cook for her when she was sick.
At one point, he tried to kiss her while they were spending time together, but she stopped him because she didn’t want him to think she was interested in anything casual. She wanted them to be in a serious relationship if they were going to date.
During this confusing time in their relationship, she was going through an intense transformation and ended up losing 30 pounds.
blvdone – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“Last week, he asked me to talk and said he wants a relationship if I’m open to it,” she recalled.
“I asked him what’s changed since we first met, but he couldn’t articulate it. I told him I needed some time to think.”
Now, she’s beginning to feel insecure and is wondering if this guy has actually fallen for her during their time together or if it’s because he’s suddenly more attracted to her after losing weight.
“I’m worried the change is purely due to change in my physical appearance,” she added.
“While I’m okay with that to an extent, [I] want to make sure he’s not too superficial. I’m thinking of just remaining friends, but at the same time, [I’m] wondering if I should take the risk if this is something real.”
What would you do if you were in her position?
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