He Told His Wife That He Doesn’t Want Her Family To Meet Their Baby Because They Treated Her Terribly Growing Up, And He Doesn’t Think Their Child Should Be Exposed To Bullies
This 33-year-old man and his wife, Carmen, 33, met when they were 14-years-old. He was in love with her ever since they were kids. Unfortunately, Carmen’s home life was incredibly toxic, and her parents were never kind to her.
Before Carmen was born, her dad cheated on her mother with another woman, who became pregnant with Carmen. Because of that, Carmen’s family had a lot of bitterness and resentment toward her.
They name-called her and put her through mental, physical, and verbal abuse for her entire life. Since he knew this history, he’s never had a bond with her family.
“She is such a strong, caring woman, but they make her feel worthless. I have told Carmen countless times that she deserves better and should cut them off, but she holds out hope that they will come to love and accept her one day,” he said.
Last September, Carmen learned that she was pregnant with their first child. They were thrilled to venture into parenthood, but throughout the past several months of Carmen’s pregnancy, he’s been wondering how involved they wanted to allow her family to be with their baby.
“I do not feel comfortable exposing our baby to people who treat their mother so cruelly. Yesterday, I told Carmen that her family would not be allowed to meet our kids,” he explained.
Carmen begged him to give her family the opportunity to meet their child, adding that her dad was happy their child was a boy.
In response, he brought up the possibility that if their son was exposed to how her father treats her, he could one day mimic that treatment toward her when he’s older.
For a few moments, she was silent, but she begged him once more to change his mind. He didn’t back down, though, and explained to her that he thought it would be best for their son if her family didn’t meet him or have a relationship with him.
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“I said she is welcome to see them if she chooses, but our son deserves better than being around bullies. Since our discussion, Carmen has barely spoken to me. She won’t kiss me or let me touch her,” he shared.
Now, he’s concerned that he was too harsh to reject the idea of Carmen’s family meeting their son or being involved in his life.
Even though he didn’t intend to upset her, he wanted to prioritize his family’s safety and mental and emotional health.
In his opinion, it wouldn’t be a good idea for Carmen’s family members, who have subjected her to so much abuse, to be involved in their son’s life.
What advice would you give him?
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