He Wants To Break Up With His Girlfriend After She Lied To His Face About Talking To Another Guy And Planned A Trip Out Of State With Her Guy Friends
This 24-year-old man and his girlfriend, 25, have been dating for seven years. They’ve always expressed that they are committed to each other.
For the entire time they’ve dated, his girlfriend has had quite a few male friends, and it didn’t bother him for the first few years of their relationship.
The majority of her, his, and their mutual friends constantly quip that his girlfriend is one of the boys since her interests align with what stereotypical men are interested in.
Rather than having girls’ nights, his girlfriend gets together with him and their group of mainly male friends. Three years into their relationship, he started to feel concerned.
“Most of her male friends have actually tried hitting on her at some point, which she tells me about much later. She rejects them politely but doesn’t tell me until months have gone by,” he said.
However, around this time, she made a confession that she had a crush on one of her friends who’d hit on her, and they’d been flirting with each other for several weeks.
Before this happened, the two of them had been constantly fought for months. Her excuse for flirting with her friend and having a crush on him was because their relationship was so unstable at the time.
“After that, she persuaded me to trust her that it was nothing, will never be repeated, and we’ll be okay in our relationship with a few boundaries set,” he explained.
Recently, he found out from one of his girlfriend’s friends that a year ago, essentially, the same scenario played out with one of their mutual friends who didn’t keep in touch with them anymore.
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His girlfriend and this friend told each other they had feelings for one another, and they flirted for several weeks.
When his girlfriend was engaging in this most recent flirtation, he had a gut feeling that something was going on, and he asked her if she was crossing any of the boundaries they’d agreed upon.
He only found out in hindsight that she was dishonest when she assured him that she wasn’t crossing the line with any other men.
Then, he learned that when his girlfriend first met the guy whom she now considers her best friend and claims that he would be a great boyfriend to someone, the guy had romantic feelings for his girlfriend.
“Now, their small friend group (which doesn’t include me nor any girls) is planning a trip to a different state without my prior knowledge,” he shared.
While he originally didn’t have any problems with the friends his girlfriend would be going on this trip with, he feels uncomfortable because of how often she’s crossed boundaries with male friends.
Plus, she hasn’t been honest with him when she’s flirted with other men behind his back.
He doesn’t feel like he can trust her anymore, and he’s considering taking a step back from the relationship.
Even though he’s not sure if he wants to end the relationship entirely, he’s debating on dating her on a more casual level.
What advice would you give him?
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