Her Children Called Her Selfish For Marrying Another Man Instead Of Getting Back Together With Their Father And Threatened Not To Attend Her Wedding
Three years ago, this 39-year-old woman divorced her now ex-husband, 42, to whom she was married for 14 years.
Over time, her ex became verbally abusive toward her, didn’t prioritize her or their children, and stopped doing housework despite the two of them working the same number of hours each week. Plus, her ex later became dependent on alcohol.
The straw that broke the camel’s back and compelled her to file for divorce was when her ex stuck her when he was explosively angry.
Unfortunately, her ex-husband didn’t sign the divorce papers and couldn’t accept that she wanted to leave him.
He sobbed and pleaded with her, promising never to hurt her again and attempting to convince her to stay by bringing up their kids, but she stood firm in her decision.
They have three children (15-year-old twin sons and a 9-year-old daughter) and share custody. For about two years, she has been dating a man, 44, who recently proposed to her.
Five years ago, her fiancé’s son, whom he shared with his late partner, was in a car accident and passed away at 17.
She adores him, deeply loves him, and he brings so much joy to her life. As their relationship progressed, he eventually met her kids.
“My fiancé was not pushy. He respected their boundaries, but my children were hostile toward him. Last week, I broke the news to my children that I would be marrying again. Needless to say, they didn’t take it well. My sons yelled at me that I was destroying their family,” she said.
Valerii Honcharuk – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Her sons accused her of being self-centered and upsetting their dad. They argued that she jumped into a new relationship too fast while their dad was still devastated and suffering the pain of their divorce.
She raised her sons to be kind, great kids, so it was stunning that they were screaming at her, their mom, in such a disrespectful manner.
During this argument, her daughter chimed in, too, and all three of her kids expressed that they’d been pining for her and her ex-husband to reunite, accusing her of destroying this dream of theirs and abandoning them and their dad.
“They said their father is still ‘waiting’ for me to come back home. They further said that while I replaced their dad with another man, their father did not replace me,” she explained.
After their divorce, she told her ex-husband that he could be in relationships if he wanted to, as long as the women he got involved with were kind to their kids. In her view, she’s not to blame for her ex refusing to leave his home so that he can meet people.
At the end of the fight with her kids, they told her they’d refuse to attend her wedding and would cut off contact with her if she went through with the wedding or married anyone who wasn’t their father. Hearing these words terrified her because she didn’t want to prioritize a partner over her kids.
Later, she had another talk with her kids to find out where they got the idea that she would possibly get back together with her ex.
According to them, her ex-husband explained that the two of them had been together since high school, and throughout their relationship, they had tons of huge disputes but always reunited in the end, giving them hope that this time would be no different.
“This did not sit well with me, and I contacted him, and he had the audacity to say, ‘Aren’t you coming back?’ He went on about how my new ‘toy’ doesn’t love me as much as he does and to reconsider and that I was ruining our children’s lives,” she shared.
Her ex started ranting about how her fiancé is his replacement, adding that he hasn’t even been on a date with anyone because he wants to be with her.
Finally, she grew tired of his ranting and hung up the phone.
She’s planning to contact a lawyer so that she can rearrange their custody agreement, and she’s going to tell her kids what happened to cause the divorce in the first place because she and her ex had only told them they didn’t get along well anymore. In addition, she will schedule for her and her kids to attend family therapy together.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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