Her Husband Has A Dog, But He Won’t Allow Her To Have Her Own Pet
This 35-year-old woman has a 47-year-old husband, and they met several years ago. A month into dating her husband, he got a dog named Kira, and Kira has essentially been with them for their whole relationship.
She adores dogs and pets of all kinds. She admits Kira is not a breed of dog she would have ever gone for, but Kira is lovely and sweet and she does have tons of fun with Kira.
Kira is not the issue in her marriage; the issue is that her husband refuses to allow her to have a pet of her own, and that’s all she wants.
Her dream was to get a pet as soon as she could financially afford to. But, her husband is of the opinion that the only pet they can have in their household is Kira.
“He believes that because Kira got here just after we met, and his plan was already in effect, he has a “grandfather clause” that trumps my lifelong dream of having my own pet,” she explained.
“Essentially, he’s saying that he beat me to it. He got a dog first, so now I cannot get one. He refuses to have any more dogs in the house. He will not allow another dog unless it’s Kira and one of her puppies.”
“My argument is that we both had a grandfather clause in place. That my dream and my plan was to have a pet as soon as possible. I don’t think it’s right for him to deny me this dream just because he wants to have two of the same dog.”
Her husband has entertained the idea of her getting a pet cat, but he will only let her get a cat that is the exact color, age, and gender he wants.
Her husband happens to be slightly allergic to cats, too, so he expects her pet cat to basically live outside.
T.Den_Team – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual dog
Sometimes, she tries to show her husband pictures of dogs she would want, but he tells her absolutely not.
“I try to explain that we cannot only live his life,” she said. “We are living in his town (I was meant to stay here temporarily, but he can’t move anywhere else), in his house (I moved into the house he already owned), with his pet.”
“I feel like he has to compromise and allow me to fulfill this dream of mine as well. I have no problem with him having Kira or one of her puppies, but they are his dogs; he chose the breed, the gender, the color, the training methods, the activities, the equipment, etc. I would like to have a choice as well.”
“We live in a 300 sqm house with a fenced yard, so space is not the issue. We make good money, so finances are not the issue. We have time to walk, train, and play with the dogs, so time is not the issue. We need some outside advice. Do I need to let go of my pet dream and understand we can only have the pets he’s chosen because Kira was here first?”
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