His Ex Broke Up With Him Because She Thought He Was A Barista With No Future, But She Recently Found Out He’s A Trust Fund Baby And Is Furious He Didn’t Tell Her
This 31-year-old man is the owner of a coffee shop franchise, and he’s also a manager. He graduated from college but never felt passionate about finding a job in the field he majored in. Plus, he isn’t relying on his parents to help him financially but utilizing money from his great-great-grandpa.
He purchased a coffee shop because he greatly enjoyed working at a coffee shop. He takes pride in creating an environment where his employees don’t have to worry about customers taking advantage of or treating them terribly.
Recently, he was in a relationship with a woman he’d been introduced to through friends. His then-girlfriend worked in banking, and she earned an impressive salary. She was gorgeous and intelligent, and he acknowledged that she was most likely more intelligent than he was. He told his girlfriend that he graduated from college and managed a coffee shop, and she told him that it didn’t bother her.
“But then it did. She said that she needed someone with a future and not someone who was squandering his education as a barista. My family never discusses money with people. It gets awkward. We don’t splash it around. But none of us really need to work or get educated, really. My little brother always joked about just buying a villa when he got his trust fund,” he said.
His brother quipped that he’d lie in bed all the time at his villa and that he’d bring in women to use kayak paddles to occasionally roll him over so that he didn’t suffer from bedsores. In reality, his brother earned his degree in teaching and is content in his job as an elementary school teacher.
Unfortunately, his girlfriend eventually ended the relationship, claiming that she couldn’t envision a life with him since she would be the breadwinner and he would be a stay-at-home father. During the breakup, he didn’t fight for her to stay with him; instead, he told her that he saw where she was coming from, and he accepted her decision.
A year and a half later, he met a woman who was one of his regular customers at the coffee shop. He thought she was amazing and a great match for him. She was previously in the military and is now studying law. He eventually proposed, and their wedding is set for this summer.
He sent out invitations to his friends, and word got back to his ex-girlfriend that he was getting married. She sent him a text message, telling him congratulations, and she asked if he and his fiancée were registered anywhere so that she could buy them a wedding gift.
“I told her that I appreciated her congratulations but that if she wanted to gift us anything, she could donate to the SPCA in our name since we didn’t really need anything. She said I should swallow my pride and just accept a gift from an old friend. I told her that anything she chose to give us would be welcome and that we would be thankful,” he explained.
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After that, his ex must have reached out to his friends to find out where he and his fiancée were registered.
She then sent him a text and told him that their wedding registry was outrageous, and she accused him of being “greedy” for requesting such pricey wedding gifts.
In response, he explained that his mother was the one who put together the registry, and he suggested that, if she wished, she could feel free to just put some money to go toward one of the presents listed on the registry.
A week after this conversation, his ex-girlfriend waltzed into his coffee shop, and she had papers she’d printed out with the priciest presents on his registry, all of which people had already purchased.
She wanted to have a chat with him in private, so he took a break so that they could talk. During the conversation, his ex asked him who bought him and his fiancée these expensive presents. He told her that close friends and family members purchased them.
“Then, she pulled out a biography of my grandmother, whom she had met when we were visiting Florida. She asked if it was the same woman. I said, ‘Yes, but please don’t go telling people about my family.’ She kind of lost it. She said that she thought she was wasting her time with me, waiting for me to quit my job and actually get a real one,” he shared.
In his view, it wouldn’t have made sense for him to pay for someone else to be the manager of his coffee shop while he worked a career that his ex-girlfriend thought was more respectable, only for him to despise the work he was doing.
Since he was financially secure and well-off, he wanted to spend his time doing something that brought him joy.
Later, his ex grew furious, accusing him of “‘cosplaying as a poor slacker'” just so he didn’t have to work hard.
She also told him she would have been perfectly content with him doing what he wanted with his career, but her issue was that he hadn’t been honest with her.
Throughout their relationship, she’d been concerned that he wouldn’t have been able to financially pull as much weight as she could, so she thought she would have had to support him.
However, he clarified that when he and his ex dated, he was the one who paid for all of their dates and vacations. He paid for them to go out to meals together and on vacation to Florida.
It seemed like his ex-girlfriend must have assumed that he was being financially irresponsible and maxing out his credit cards in order to pay for everything and make a good impression.
It never dawned on him when they were in a relationship that his ex had been thinking this. His credit card payments are automatically set up to be paid in full.
After their conversation, his ex explained the situation to some of their mutual friends, and she even informed his family members what happened, and everyone had varying opinions. Some of his friends had already been aware of him being a trust fund baby, and they didn’t say too much. But others who hadn’t known were angry.
They felt awful that they’d split the bill whenever they’d all gone out to meals with him. From his perspective, they seemed upset that he was acting like he wasn’t wealthy all this time, bragging about his barista tips just like they did so that they didn’t get suspicious.
Some of his friends also said that it would have been a better idea for him to have been honest with his ex-girlfriend before she’d ended the relationship.
What would you have done if you were in his shoes?
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