How You Can Be More Vulnerable And Let Your Guard Down In Your Relationship
When you’re in a relationship with someone, one of the biggest ways to show someone you love them and are ready to grow with them is to be vulnerable.
But showing vulnerability, true vulnerability, is harder than it sounds. Some of us are much more comfortable moving through life with walls up.
Being with someone, letting your guard down, being yourself with no defenses, and expressing your feelings can be really challenging.
If you’re in a relationship with someone you really like but still find yourself struggling to be vulnerable around them, here are some tips to help you get there.
Let go of fear.
Many of us avoid being vulnerable with someone, especially in the earlier days of a relationship, because we’re afraid they will abandon us or leave us. If you want a healthier relationship, you need to stop stifling your true self in fear of them breaking up with you.
Assert yourself.
Part of being vulnerable means being vocal about what you want and don’t want, as well as your likes and dislikes.
It starts with small actions like letting them know you don’t want to go on a date somewhere that makes you uncomfortable or telling them what you want from your relationship.
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Vulnerability and honesty go hand in hand, so start speaking up and speaking from the truth.
Be more self-aware.
How can you truly let your guard down and let someone get to know who you truly are if you’re not sure of yourself first?
Practice self-awareness and deepen your emotional intelligence. Pay attention to how you react when your partner or someone in your life does certain things and check in with your emotions. That way, you’ll have an easier time telling your partner how you feel.
Communicate
As so many people say, communication is key. It’s nearly impossible to be vulnerable without communicating what’s going on with you.
If you want something from someone, you have to tell them. If you need something from someone, how will they know unless you talk to them?
The longer you practice communicating how you feel, whether you’re expressing positive or negative emotions, the better you’ll get at it.
Accept any risks
When we’re vulnerable, especially in front of our partners, there is always that risk of them disagreeing with you or not feeling connected to you. Unfortunately, in some instances, we may be judged or rejected. It’s a risk you’ll just have to accept and move on from in order not to let fear or anger overwhelm you.
Again, being vulnerable is something that takes a relationship to the next level and can help you and your partner become even closer. If you take small steps each day to be more open, honest, and real with them, you’ll be on a good track.
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