She Snapped At Her Mother-In-Law For Giving Her Grief About Taking A Gap Year Before Law School
Some people who have taken a gap year in the middle of their higher education to either focus on their mental health, travel, work, figure out their next move, etc., have said it was one of the best decisions they’ve ever made.
One woman recently snapped at her future mother-in-law, who won’t stop giving her grief about taking a gap year before going to graduate school.
She’s 26-years-old and has been with her fiancé, who is the same age, for over three years. They live together, and her fiancé is working, as he finished undergrad and graduate school at an impressive accelerated rate.
Her fiancé went to graduate school sooner than she did, as she decided to take a year off from school after finishing undergrad.
“I never really thrived in academia, so I took a year off after undergrad to work, live on my own, and figure out whether I truly wanted to pursue grad school or not,” she explained.
“It was the most fun year of my life. But ultimately, my career aspirations were solidified during that year, and I needed to go back to school to pursue what I wanted. I’m currently in my final semester of law school.”
She and her fiancé decided to wait to get married until she finished law school, something his family is not thrilled about.
Her fiancé’s family is very passionate about academia, and their son’s professional career has made them very proud, especially his mother. Even though she’s on the road to being successful, her future mother-in-law won’t stop judging her and giving her grief for taking a gap year.
She never even considered her year off a gap year, as it was a time when she was genuinely trying to decide if she needed and wanted to pursue grad school.
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“My mother-in-law makes it abundantly clear she looks down upon that year,” she said.
“[She makes] comments about how I’d be in the workforce for ‘a whole year by now’ if [I] hadn’t taken the gap year, [and] how my fiancé and I would have already been married by now.”
Her mother-in-law always reminds her that her fiancé is “two years ahead of her,” and these comments bother her.
Although her fiancé works full-time while she only works part-time, they split their rent and utilities. Her fiancé does contribute a bit more to their grocery and household expenses because of his larger income, and once his mother found out about that, she was not happy.
“Every time I speak with mother-in-law, she makes a negative comment about the ‘gap year’ I took,” she added.
“She visited last weekend and was constantly bringing it up. I eventually snapped at her, [saying] that if I hadn’t taken my ‘gap year,’ I wouldn’t have been in the head-space to even attend law school, and [I told her] it was time for her to shut up about it.”
Her fiancé backed her up and told his mom she was on track for her age and academic career, agreeing that she should stop being so judgmental.
Her mother-in-law began to cry and accused her and her fiancé of attacking her.
Did she ‘attack’ her mother-in-law, or was the confrontation necessary?
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