She Told Off Her Mother-In-Law After She Kept Pressuring Her To Quit Her Job And Become A Stay-At-Home Mom
A lot of the time, you hear women getting a lot of grief for being stay-at-home moms instead of getting a job on top of raising their kids. However, sometimes, it’s the other way around.
One woman recently snapped at her mother-in-law, who’s been bothering her, trying to get her to quit her job and become a stay-at-home mom.
She’s 31 and works in cybersecurity engineering for a big tech company. Her husband is an internal medicine specialist, and they have a 2-year-old and another baby on the way.
They’ve been living happily and comfortably, as they both make great salaries and can pay her retired aunt to watch their kid while they’re at work.
Unfortunately, not everyone in their lives approves of their family-work life.
“My family is pretty open-minded, but my husband’s family [is] old-fashioned,” she explained.
“Since we are Japanese, there is a consensus from them that women who are married with children shouldn’t be working.”
Since having their first child, her husband’s side of the family has been dropping not-so-subtle hints that she should quit her job, become a stay-at-home mom, and let her husband provide for their family.
However, she loves her job and doesn’t understand why she can’t keep working. Not to mention, her company has been very good to her since becoming a mom, and she got a great amount of maternity leave time.
Iona – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Additionally, she and her husband hire and outsource people to handle a lot of their housework like grocery deliveries, cleaning, lawn work, etc., so other than cooking, they spend all their time at home with their kids.
Even though she and her husband are making and saving a lot of money with their current way of living, her mother-in-law still doesn’t approve and believes she should stay home to do all of it herself.
A few nights ago, her mother-in-law wouldn’t stop making these kinds of comments, and they eventually got to her.
Her mother-in-law came over for dinner and, by the end of the meal, complimented her about the food. When she told her mother-in-law that her husband was the one who cooked, she was shocked.
“She said it wasn’t right that my husband has to do any work after his long shift,” she recalled.
“I got annoyed and said that I was working longer than him [that day], and she said, ‘Well then you should quit so you don’t need to.’ I got mad.”
She had an outburst and told her mother-in-law that she had no interest in quitting her job, and despite her and her husband’s outsourcing, they’re still saving around $12,000 a month. She said they’re making enough money to send their kids to the best schools and are working towards making enough money to pay for their college tuition.
“It’s ridiculous to expect me to quit just because she has old-fashioned ideas that women need to be on their knees scrubbing away,” she added.
“My mother-in-law was offended, but my husband told her it’s already be settled, and [I’ll] still be working.”
Was she wrong to tell off her mother-in-law like that, or was she right to defend herself?
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