A Guide To Getting Ready For Your Second Trip Down The Aisle, Since It Can Be Difficult To Plan Another Wedding
Sometimes, it can feel controversial to get married a second time. Whether you separated from your first spouse or something else happened, and you’ve found yourself engaged once again, don’t let anyone make you feel less-than for giving marriage a second shot and doing what makes you happy.
It can be hard to know how to start planning your second wedding, as things will certainly be different from the first time. But here are a few trips to get you confidently planning your second wedding.
Go as big as you want.
There’s this misconception that when you get married a second time, especially if you’re older, you must have a small, intimate wedding or elope at a courthouse.
However, that’s not the case. If you have the financial means to have another big, traditional wedding and want to have one with your future spouse, go for it!
Don’t feel like you have to downsize for your second wedding if you don’t want to.
Correct any regrets from the last time.
If there were any aspects of your previous wedding that you look back and regret, like the dress you wore, the kind of music you danced to, the type of cake you had, or the pictures you took, now is your time to change all that!
Second weddings are not only a second chance at marriage, but they’re a second chance at throwing the celebration of your dreams.
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Embrace your new style.
If you went super traditional during your first wedding or repressed some parts of your style to please friends and family, forget about all that for your second wedding. Now is the time to mix things up and embrace your current style and looks. If you’d rather wear a more untraditional dress, go for it. If you don’t want to marry in a church again and have always loved beach weddings, book a spot in the sand.
You don’t have to follow all the traditions.
If you’re getting married again but are tight on money or are just too busy or exhausted to plan a bridal shower, bachelor or bachelorette party, etc., know that you don’t have to do all of that again. Typical wedding traditions, either before or during the ceremony, like parents’ dances and formal cake cuttings, don’t have to happen a second time around.
Again, remember, you make the rules and should keep the day as extravagant or low-key as you want!
Incorporate your family.
If you’re getting married again and have become a parent since your first marriage or your future spouse has a family, include them! If you’re about to become part of a blended family after your second wedding, you should take your wedding day as an opportunity to celebrate your two households coming together.
You can include your new family members in your wedding party, invite them to the dance floor for a special dance at your reception, or mention them in your speech or vows.
Try not to compare everything to your first wedding
While you may want your second wedding to be ‘better’ than your first, don’t compare the wins and failures of both days during the entire planning process. Stay present in the moment and remember that the past is the past.
Your first wedding was a big day in your life, but that chapter is closed, and it shouldn’t be clouding your mind the second time around.
Enjoy yourself
Remember that getting married is about making a promise to your future spouse and having a good time. Don’t allow yourself to get too stressed out on your wedding day or during your planning process.
It’s understandable if you’re stressed during your first wedding, but if it’s your second, you don’t want to have two stressful wedding experiences. Do whatever it is you have to do to enjoy yourself on your wedding day, even if it means seeking help from or hiring others who can handle some of the logistics.
Your second wedding will be lovely as long as you take the time to savor this exciting moment with your future spouse, focus on love, and enjoy yourself. Have fun!
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