Abby Connolly
Embrace your new style.
If you went super traditional during your first wedding or repressed some parts of your style to please friends and family, forget about all that for your second wedding. Now is the time to mix things up and embrace your current style and looks. If you’d rather wear a more untraditional dress, go for it. If you don’t want to marry in a church again and have always loved beach weddings, book a spot in the sand.
You don’t have to follow all the traditions.
If you’re getting married again but are tight on money or are just too busy or exhausted to plan a bridal shower, bachelor or bachelorette party, etc., know that you don’t have to do all of that again. Typical wedding traditions, either before or during the ceremony, like parents’ dances and formal cake cuttings, don’t have to happen a second time around.
Again, remember, you make the rules and should keep the day as extravagant or low-key as you want!
Incorporate your family.
If you’re getting married again and have become a parent since your first marriage or your future spouse has a family, include them! If you’re about to become part of a blended family after your second wedding, you should take your wedding day as an opportunity to celebrate your two households coming together.
You can include your new family members in your wedding party, invite them to the dance floor for a special dance at your reception, or mention them in your speech or vows.
Try not to compare everything to your first wedding
While you may want your second wedding to be ‘better’ than your first, don’t compare the wins and failures of both days during the entire planning process. Stay present in the moment and remember that the past is the past.
Your first wedding was a big day in your life, but that chapter is closed, and it shouldn’t be clouding your mind the second time around.
