He Wants To Leave His Wife Because She Quit Her Job To Be An Influencer, And After It Didn’t Work Out, She Requested They Get Divorced So She Could Get Government Assistance Instead Of Going Back To Work
This 35-year-old man and his wife, 34, have been married for two years and together for five years. His wife has a 15-year-old son and 7-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, who live with him and his wife full-time.
Their father pays a substantial amount in monthly child support. His wife has a Master’s degree in education and is healthy.
“She quit her job roughly a year ago to pursue a career as a life coach/mindfulness instructor. She wanted to be a content creator for Instagram and TikTok,” he said.
He didn’t support this idea because they weren’t financially stable, so it would have been more difficult for him to provide for their family without her contributing an income. Plus, they live in an expensive city in the northeastern part of the country with a high cost of living.
Since he adored his wife and hoped to support her as much as possible, he hesitantly got on board with his wife’s plan. He thought she could test out creating content, but she’d find another full-time job if she wasn’t successful.
At times, he worked six or seven days a week to earn enough money for them to survive. Unfortunately, his wife’s career as a content creator didn’t work out, and they had a few discussions before she became a middle school substitute teacher. She chose this position because it gave her the flexibility to continue creating social media content.
Her substituting job also allows her enough time to pick her children up from the bus after school and attend games for the sports they’re involved in. However, his wife doesn’t earn much money from her part-time job, and it would be better if she started working full-time again as she did during the first several years of their relationship.
“I ask her to start looking for something that would better suit our needs, and she tells me that she ‘cannot work a full-time job due to her children, and it would be easier for her to divorce me on paper and receive government welfare to support the family,'” he explained.
He was shocked at his wife’s suggestion and didn’t understand why she wanted to file for divorce to receive government assistance when she could successfully find a full-time job. Because his wife has a Master’s, she could earn an impressive salary.
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While he’s completely in favor of people who need government assistance having access to it, he doesn’t approve of his wife trying to defraud the government to get welfare. Since his wife is smart and has a graduate degree, she can work full-time.
“I’ve compromised a lot already for this relationship. I am not okay with the fraud and would never do it. I work very hard to get what I have. She could only technically receive about a year of alimony,” he shared.
If his wife asked for alimony during the divorce proceedings, he would fight against it. He would prefer to give his lawyer more money than his wife.
Luckily, he has text messages from his wife in which she detailed the government assistance fraud she wanted to commit, so he had plenty of evidence if she attempted to go forward with her plan without his approval.
After thinking it over, he decided to move out and let his wife divorce him, but he wouldn’t participate in her scheme to receive government assistance. He started packing his belongings and informed his wife that he’d be officially moved out by April 1st.
In his view, it was outrageous that his wife thought it would be easier to divorce him but continue their relationship as usual because she’d rather get government assistance than work full-time.
Being a husband was fulfilling, and he always heard he was a wonderful partner. While in a relationship and married to his wife, he contributed to housework and was proud of the work he put into their marriage. He adored being a husband and deeply loved his wife, so this situation has been understandably painful.
What would you have done if you were in his shoes?
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