Abby Connolly
Try to let your friends know when you’re feeling burnt out and explain that if you don’t reach out to them as often or are spacey in your text responses, that’s why. You can simply text them, “Sorry if I’m a bit spacey in my communication; I’m feeling a little burnt out these days.”
Apologize
If you’ve been very bad at communicating with your friends during this tough time or missed something important to them, don’t forget to apologize.
While your friends should accept and understand what you’re going through, it would probably mean a lot to them if you apologized for not being as attentive to your friendship as usual. Send a quick apology and move on.
Communicate your needs
This is a very important part of maintaining friendships during hard times. Your friends should know how to help you during these moments and vice versa. When you can, let your friends know what you need from them anytime you struggle.
For instance, would you prefer that they text you every few hours or days, or would you like them to wait until you reach out to them? Would you like them to try to see you in person, or would a phone call suffice?
Let your friends know what they can do to help you feel better, and ask what you can do for them. This will keep everyone prepared and will make your friendships a lot stronger.
Go easy on yourself
Just because you don’t feel like texting your friend back while you’re experiencing depression or anxiety doesn’t mean you are a bad friend or person. Mental health struggles are serious and can make us do things we wouldn’t normally do.
While it’s important to work to maintain friendships, don’t beat yourself up for falling apart now and then. You’re only human!
