His Ex-Wife Is Angry That He Got To Go On Vacation While She Was Stuck With Their Children, But He Thinks His Ex Doesn’t Deserve To Whine Since She Initiated Their Divorce
This man and his ex-wife got divorced a year ago. They have children together, and his ex’s lawyer suggested that he could have custody every second weekend a month, which he accepted. He was never too thrilled about having children, and he told his then-wife before she got pregnant with their first child that he never wanted to do anything related to raising kids.
“When she got pregnant, I told her I was not interested in changing diapers or anything. She agreed to do the childcare and let me be the fun dad. Then she started resenting me,” he said.
Over time, his wife grew frustrated that he refused to pitch in with raising their children, so she finally filed for divorce. After moving out on his own, he rented a two-bedroom apartment, and his monthly rent, combined with the child support he owed his ex-wife, made it difficult to save money, and this period of his life was tough for him.
“My ex was getting every other weekend free, and I was miserable. So, I gave up custody and went to live in a shared house,” he explained.
Luckily, he was able to save a lot of money when he started dividing rent with roommates. He felt like his issues had completely evaporated, and he loved living in a shared house because it felt like he was in a college dorm.
He travels often for work, and his company reimburses him. When he takes work trips, he uses travel credit cards to accumulate travel miles. Even though he doesn’t mind traveling for work, he never has the chance to go out and do fun things before going home.
While he and his ex-wife were still married, they took tons of trips for free since he had saved up enough miles. Now that he travels alone, he flies first class. Recently, he took a trip and posted photos on his Instagram. His ex-wife saw the photos and freaked out at him.
“Her reason was that she never gets free time, as she is on-call 24/7. She is still salty about her every-other-weekend break that I took away from her,” he shared.
When he said she could take a trip, she countered that she couldn’t because she had full custody of their children. He suggested she bring their children on the trip, but his ex responded that she couldn’t afford an extravagant trip for herself and their children. However, he knew he couldn’t afford to travel if he didn’t have travel miles stored up.
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After the argument with his ex-wife, he didn’t understand what he did wrong because he pointed out that she did all the child-rearing before their divorce, so nothing has changed in that aspect.
He didn’t think it made sense that his ex would have assumed she’d be less overwhelmed caring for their children after the divorce.
He clarified that he did housework and cooked meals, but he didn’t want any involvement in raising their children besides playing with them so that his then-wife could relax.
In his opinion, his ex shouldn’t be whining about how little time to herself she gets and how impossible it is for her to take trips because she initiated the divorce.
Before they had kids, his ex knew she would be the only one raising them. Even though he agreed with her complaint that rent is too expensive, he thinks she should have known before filing for divorce that he wouldn’t be co-parenting with her.
Do you think he was wrong to take a vacation while his ex-wife couldn’t?
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