She Wants A Prenup To Protect Her Finances Because Her Boyfriend Keeps Supporting His Self-Destructive Sister

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This 25-year-old woman and her boyfriend, 27, have been in a relationship for two years and have started talking about getting married. She told him she wanted to draft a prenuptial agreement during these conversations.

At first, her boyfriend was comfortable signing a prenup, and when he asked why she needed one, she explained that it was because of his sister.

A year ago, her boyfriend’s sister was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Over the years, his sister has received other diagnoses like bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and depression.

She doesn’t know if this will be the last disorder that his sister will be diagnosed with, but from her perspective, this most recent diagnosis seems accurate.

“His sister self-destructs her own life and is very volatile. She has quit a job on a dime because a boss reminded her not to be late (she was late by over 20 minutes), so she quit after breaking dishes,” she said.

Usually, she wouldn’t have to worry about her boyfriend’s sister, but he and his family believe that since he’s the older brother, it’s his obligation to support his sister when needed. On several occasions, he’s paid his sister’s rent and purchased a car for her when she was unhoused.

In the prenup terms, she wanted to include an obligatory savings account into which she and her boyfriend would pay a percentage of their salary, and neither of them would have access to that money. Plus, she would expect her boyfriend to contribute to some of their monthly expenses, and he’d be required to pay into this joint savings account.

She came up with this idea because she predicted that otherwise, her boyfriend would deplete his savings and ask her for money to go toward his sister. Right now, he doesn’t have any money saved up. If he was ever seriously ill and temporarily unable to work, she would have to financially support him.

“I do feel like his sister is an anchor, and I want a prenup structured to make sure he has to save some of his money and pay his bills, so he doesn’t just spend all his money on her,” she explained.

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