She’s Skipping Her Friend’s Wedding Since Her Cheating Ex Will Be There, But She’s Debating Telling Her Friend The Truth
Honesty is supposed to be the best policy, but sometimes it’s not worth being honest with someone in order to prevent hurting their feelings.
This 34-year-old woman’s 32-year-old friend is getting married soon, and she’s skipping out on his wedding.
She has not told him the real reason why she’s going to RSVP no, and she’s debating if she should tell him the truth at all.
There are a couple of reasons for her not wanting to be in attendance at her friend’s wedding, the first one being that it’s a pretty inconvenient venue.
The venue is located 8 hours away by car, and it’s happening on a weekday. This will require her to take two whole days off work and pay for two evenings at a hotel.
Despite the inconvenience, she was still going to go to the wedding because she used to be super close to her friend.
They don’t currently see one another a lot, as he ended up moving to another city, and their friendship consists of texting one another to catch up from time to time and seeing one another once or twice a year.
“I’ve always figured you put up with some minor inconveniences to be there for friends,” she explained.
“However! I’ve now found out that an ex-fling of mine is going to be one of the groomsmen. I knew they were friends but didn’t realize they were that close.”
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“I feel very uncomfortable about seeing this ex again – there are lots of individual examples of him being a [jerk] to me that I could list, but the main one was that he told me he’d broken up with his long-term girlfriend so that I’d hook up with him, and then it turned out that was pretty much a lie.”
Surprisingly, her cheating ex is still in a relationship with this other girl, and she’s not positive this girl knows what he did.
She is aware that she’s not even the first girl he cheated with, which is truly terrible. Her ex’s girlfriend is also attending the wedding along with him.
While her friend who is getting married knows the whole ugly truth, back when it blew up, he did not pick a side. She never held this against her friend, as it was a very messy situation all the way around.
She has moved on and found someone new, who she is thrilled to be with, so she has no feelings left for her ex.
It’s just that she hasn’t spoken to her ex in three years, and she has been happy to leave this man firmly in her past.
“It’s not going to be a big wedding – 50 people max,” she said. “There will be no avoiding him, and since the wedding is in the middle of nowhere, we will have nowhere else to go.”
“If it were near home, then I’d go to the ceremony and meal, then politely leave, but that’s not possible in the location. I think I’m definitely going to decline, but I’m not sure if I should tell my friend the real reason or if I should make up an excuse about work or something.”
“If you were the friend in this scenario, what would you prefer? We’re no longer really close, but it would be very unusual for me to just say, ‘Sorry, can’t make it!’ and nothing more.”
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