Abby Connolly
To get yourself to snap out of your gloominess, think about the way your ex dumped you. Would you really want to stay with someone heartless enough to dump you so unexpectedly? Would you really want to stay so sad about it for so long?
Cut your ties
One of the best ways to get closure and officially end things with your ex is to cut ties with them digitally. Trust me, you don’t want to contact them at this time. They wanted to break up with you so suddenly, so let them feel what it’s like to not be able to contact you when they want. Block their number!
I would also highly recommend unfollowing them on social media. We’ve all done the tempting Instagram or Facebook stalk after a breakup, which often worsens things. Cut all those digital ties, and you’ll feel much more free.
Pick up a new hobby
This may sound like a cheesy tip, but for sudden, unexpected breakups, it’s a great one. Why? Well, when you lose a partner unexpectedly via breakup, it’s like you’re losing a big part of your life. You suddenly have more free time and opportunities to fill your life with something else.
Sign up for a class you’ve always wanted to try, buy the art supplies you’ve been thinking about, find a club to join, etc. Replace all the time and effort you used to spend on your ex and put it towards something that will make you happy.
Embrace the single life for a while
Avoid giving yourself relationship whiplash by trying to jump into a new relationship after one suddenly ends. Whether you want to admit it or not, your ex’s actions likely scarred you, and trying to enter a new fling or relationship right away while still carrying that hurt and baggage could be a recipe for disaster.
Give yourself a few months or even a year of being single, enjoying your solo time and time with friends, and let yourself be. You’ll discover new things about yourself and get a lot more productive things done.
If you were recently broken up with unexpectedly, my heart goes out to you. It must be incredibly painful to experience, but I promise you’ll heal bit by bit, day by day.
